I have a question…

One of my cousins on my father’s side is Jewish. She converted 45 years ago when she married a Jewish man, and they’ve raised their son and daughter as Jewish, including Bar and Bat Mitzvah. She keeps a kosher home still, even after her husband passed away, and was going to the synagogue regularly (before Covid). She keeps a mezuzah on her door. She recently told me that a kid (twenty-something) told her "well, you’re not [b]really[/b] Jewish, and your kids aren’t really Jewish either. Their mother has to be Jewish, not just their father." My cousin told him, "My children [b]were[/b] born to a Jewish mother." She was very offended. Once you convert, don’t you become part of the community ? 🤔

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DragonFruit · 61-69, M

“OJ Simpson is not a Jew.....but guess who is, Hall of Famer Rod Carew (he converted)”

-Adam Sandler, “The Chanukah Song”

People like Rod Carew, your cousin and my cousin, who converted to Judaism are Jews.
My cousin converted because she wanted to be a part of her husband’s family heritage and raise his children as Jewish. Her father sang opera, and at her son’s Bar Mitzvah/daughter’s Bat Mitzvah she sang the songs better than the Cantor.
Everyone among my family/friends knows that she’s Jewish, and she studied hard to learn the Jewish customs and Hebrew.
The young man probably assumed (and you know what that does) that because she didn’t “look” Jewish, she wasn’t Jewish (my cousin has it a bit easier in that regard, because she’s of Italian descent and does kind of “look” Jewish).
If she converted, that means that the Jewish community leaders in her area have accepted her as Jewish....this kid doesn’t have the right to tell her otherwise.