I made jokes about my sisters wedding photos and I think that she got mad at me.

The title makes it sound like I am an awful person right?
But no hear me out. My lil brother went to visit my mom and found a stack of my baby sister's wedding photos. He posted them in our family group chat. Immediately I saw that they had been badly photo shopped with my sisters head being twice the actual size and the lighting of her face was different than her body and her nose was elongated.
So I made a bobblehead joke thinking that everyone would laugh at the photoshop fail.
My sister seriously could not believe that it was photo shopped insisting that I was making fun of her large head when she was skinny on her wedding photos.
Omg I showed the photo to my husband and he immediately saw that her head was supernaturally large and imposed over her body on the pic.
How could you not see that on your own picture?

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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

We can't see our own faces in real life, except via reflection or photos, which give us a flipped image. So it's possible she wouldn't be aware of it.

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@assemblingaknob not to mention, if she has body dysmorphia, she may struggle seeing herself properly anyway and/or have low self esteem (which could make her siblings joke feel more like an attack)

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@WaryWitchWandering No she doesn't have body dysmorphia but we have a wierd history from her childhood that we are trying to get over and build from where she feels judged by me and she felt like an outcast from the family.

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@REMsleep did you explain to her you weren’t picking on her, but the editing of the photo?

HootyTheNightOwl

Fine line here... by all means poke fun of the photographer's crappy editing skills - but poking fun at your sister herself on the happiest day of her life might be a step too far.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@HootyTheNightOwl Well I wasn't poking fun at her. I thought that it was photoshopped because I have other pics from her wedding and she does not look like that at all in them. I cannot explain why that pic looks that way since she insisted that it wasn't edited but my husband said that it looked edited also. I just dropped it but she probably got offended before I dropped it.

HootyTheNightOwl

@REMsleep Despite what she thinks/says... they probably were edited.

Even professionals use photoshop in some way - the trick is to at least TRY to leave the subjects looking natural.

The part that concerns me about poking fun at people on such important occasions is that the acts of others can leave an overwhelmingly negative view on the whole day on the person that they carry with them forever.

There were a couple of negative things that happened on my wedding day last time that overshadowed the whole day for me - and most of that was down to my mother being a control freak and turning the whole day into what she wanted it to be.

If I ever marry again, I want what I want - and no deviations.

Pretzel · 61-69, M

We see what we want to see.

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