I Tried Online Dating

A couple of days ago, I created an account on Tinder. I've never done the online dating stuff. I'm tired of being lonely. I know my wife wouldn't want me to sit around and be like this. I just want someone to call up and talk to, someone to watch a movie with, to go out to eat with. I don't know if anything will evolve beyond that, and that's fine. That's not what I'm looking for right now.

Has anyone here used Tinder? If so, how did it go?

*edit* My wife passed away a couple years ago. I'm not currently married and looking to date.

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DamnFeelz · 36-40, F

It’s my understanding that Tinder is more of a hook up platform. You may want to try something like OKCupid for friendly dating. EHarmony and match.com cost money, but because of that you’re more likely to meet someone who has their act together. Plentyoffish.com it’s a cesspool 😅

ChickenNugget · 31-35, M

@DamnFeelz I'll try that. Thank you!

DamnFeelz · 36-40, F

Happy to help. Also, when designing a dating profile it helps to focus on your core values, a few specific things actively going on in your life that reflect those values like hobbies or your work if it’s something you actually enjoy doing, and a bit about what you’re looking for romantically. That formula will optimize the matching algorithm. @ChickenNugget

ChickenNugget · 31-35, M

@DamnFeelz You're a wealth of information on this. Thank you! Before I met my wife, I had never dated. It was something I never cared much to pursue. Now that she's gone, I feel like I'm trying to fill a void in my life.

DamnFeelz · 36-40, F

🤷🏻‍♀️😅 I’ve done a bit of dating and learned some valuable lessons from my mistakes 😆

My biggest mistake was making my profiles about about my interests, which are many, but don’t necessarily matter to me,
Stuff I used to be into that isn’t really relevant to my present life anymore,
or things I would like to do that wasn’t going on yet in the foreseeable future.
It was too wide of a net. A lot of people replied that like certain things they read, but we didn’t have very much in common on a deeper, fundamental level.

I would be clear in your profile that “you’re not big on causal dating, but just looking to make some happy memories with someone like go hiking etc and see where it goes” It’s honest in that it doesn’t promise a relationship mode, but also comes off nice (aka not a douche just out to date casually/get laid) @ChickenNugget

ChickenNugget · 31-35, M

@DamnFeelz I appreciate the advice. Thank you! 🙂