It is never right to think that lowering yourself would buy you acceptance
Because it will not.
I remember when you thought that we would be better off , I would not get physically abused as much as I did, if I didn't challenge him. But I know for a fact I would have been dead or another version of you if I was an easy bite. It is me being challenging that made him always hold back. He was afraid of me.
If predators had the ability to feel mercy they would not be predators to begin with.