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Let me rant about home, again

It's hard to grow up in a family where favoritism is existing. I grew up invalidated my feelings by my parents. For my mother, there is only one opinion that matters, that's my brother.

It's not a big deal to me to pay my family's bills and buy food for "everyone". But most of the time, all the foods I bought was consumed, and I haven't even tasted it. I feel so drained for working extra hours and not getting empathy. I just want to eat the meat I bought and marinated last night, but when I found the one last piece, my mother stopped me and says its for my brother. Now I told her some things we need to do to spend money efficiently, because her retirement fund went on my brother's computer, phone, and other gadgets. But she's mad at me now. I sold my laptap to buy a printer and a samsung tablet, because our printer is in my brother's room and we can't almost use it. Also, my employer provided a new laptop, that's why I think I don't need my personal laptop anymore. My brother saw my new printer and tablet, now he is forcing my mother to buy him also. And guess what, my mom agrees.

I love my family so much, but I want to break free at the same time.
assemblingaknob26-30, F
Oh my goodness. That's horrible 馃槶 my blood boils just reading this. You could perhaps work out boundaries with the fam. Helping with necessities but luxuries jeez? I knew we never had the kind of money to budge my parents about buying gadgets or gaming stuff or anything. That shi.t expensive. So we never asked. Your brother needs to understand how finances work and it's your parents' job to help him understand. You need to put to your foot down. It's for the greater good. You need to claim your space.
assemblingaknob26-30, F
@sugarpie I see from your other comment you're the youngest? I thought the brother would be. 馃ズjeez.
There is nothing wrong with supporting family. But other siblings should contribute too. You could help out aging parents, but other siblings have working limbs, they should make themselves useful and contribute! The world only goes around on mutualism. There's give AND take. It's essential for survival.
sugarpie26-30, F
@assemblingaknob thank you for listening. My posts here are quite tiring because most of them are my rants or things that I can't say in actual life
sugarpie26-30, F
@assemblingaknob yes, Im the youngest
InHeavenF
Hugs. Hang in there. Sad situation
RoxClymer41-45, M
you need to kick that shit to the curb
for your own sanity
sugarpie26-30, F
@RoxClymer my mom wont let us. Also, I'm the youngest
RoxClymer41-45, M
@sugarpie
I understand there are cultural differences but even if you are the youngest and you are 26-30, you are an adult, to make your own adult decisions, including telling your family your true feelings.

that was your mom's fault for spending all of her money, it's your brother's problem if he wants something expensive HE can earn the money to buy it.

the food you never see - you don't have to buy that, sounds to me like you hold all the power, sit your family down and tell them you aren't buying anymore food until things turn around.
Glassysky22-25, M
LOL.
I feel bad for messing with you
But ur fam sounda hella toxic bro
sugarpie26-30, F
@Glassysky a bit normal for southeast asian parenting
Glassysky22-25, M
@sugarpie u runnin the house and aint even gettin respect
in10RjFoxM
What's your brother's age ? He is acting like a child..馃榾
sugarpie26-30, F
@in10RjFox around 35

 
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