Do you think my cousin was rude when I wished him a “Happy Veterans Day”?

I texted my cousin to see how he’s doing and he didn’t text me back until two hours. He just said, “Fine”. I wished him a happy Veterans Day and he rudely said, “Yeah yeah WHATEVER.”
I was shocked. I was hoping he would say “Thank you so much. It means a lot to me.” He used to serve in the navy for bout 5 years…..I think. Then I said, “That…..wasn’t very nice. Well aren’t you a veteran?”
Then he said, “Well I don’t have to be. Yes I am a veteran, but it would be nice to have a day off.”
I told him I was just being nice. He didn’t respond back. Damn some veterans are ungrateful….I can understand how he feels, but a “THANK YOU” would be nice.
I didn’t bother complaining to my older siblings because they would tell me to get over it.

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Lucyy · 22-25, F

'Some veterans are ungrateful'

They literally are veterans. Many have anxiety, depression, PTSD, linked to their time in service. Just the reminder of it can ruin their whole day and change their tone. Or maybe he was just having a bad day. Obviously ideally he would say thank you. But you have no idea what he is going though, the trauma linked to that memory you just dragged up, and quite frankly, he has no reason to need to be grateful for you wishing him a happy day when HE is the one who served. He did waaaay more for our country than you did just by taking 2 seconds to send a text- the gratitude and understanding should be coming from your end. Not his- he has done his part. You did nothing outstanding there that deserved gratitude coming from him.

Your siblings are right. You are upset over a text that took 2 seconds. He spent years serving and building up negative experiences. It's like whining about a papercut on your finger to someone with no arm.

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LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Lucyy Really? YOU again? Of course I’m not surprised by your comment because you will go against me and side with others. My cousin has no right to be rude and say “whatever” to me. I was trying to be kind to him and honor him but he got rude and said whatever so until he apologizes, I won’t forgive him for being rude.

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