For those who hate holidays?

Why do you hate holidays such as Christmas, valentines, etc.? Just curious because my ex bf (whom claiming he wants to work things out with me) says that he hates holidays and birthdays and doesn't like celebrating them because it is a social standard that society has set up. That people who celebrate them are basically "basic" and they make a big deal out of a day which should be like any other day.

He doesn't want to be pressured to get me anything for Christmas, valentines, birthday, etc. That it makes him unhappy to feel like he has to give me anything at all... even when we were in a relationship (2years), he has never ever given me anything. Not even some flower from the side of the road. Am I being inconsiderate of his believe?

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LilPrincess · 46-50, F

I use to celebrate the holidays but not anymore. My reason is because I lost my mama & was emotionally hurt by a stupid jackwagon. If I have someone in my life though it doesn't stop me from remembering them on that day.

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LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@ XoPrincessXo:
Disregard all the numb FKS here who don`t understand how impactful
1- Losing a parent really IS (mom for a daughter)
2- Being in an abusive relationship is. It`s so destablizing.

There are other factors for sure...
but without my Mama, for me, the Holidays have lost their lustre.
At least, for now.

Hugs, Luna.

LilPrincess · 46-50, F

Thank you Luna *hugs*

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@XoPrincessXo:
Welcome dear :)

xo Luna :) 🌈👭🎄

Goralski · 56-60, M

Aint he a rebel probably just too cheap ta get ya anything

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Goralski · 56-60, M

@NightWing: cheap doesn't mean lack of money. ..people like him just don't care about who they're with they're self centered

NightWing · 26-30, F

@Goralski: but that's just it, I'm not asking for anything that even costs money!
A poem doesn't cost a gosh darn dime?
Man, I know you're right.

Goralski · 56-60, M

Nothing wrong with an nice present once in a while either:)

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Having an alcoholic parent and dysfunctional family can cause that. It dredges up bad memories of every holiday.

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

Does he EVER give you any gift? Who pays for the dates?

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

Oh ok, so NO gift ever?
He is a cheap DK.
Dump his azz.
You deserve better.
Stop wasting time.

NightWing · 26-30, F

He wrote me a heartfelt poem but that was after I had dumped him..
Idk if you've ever dated someone manipulative? Well, it's really hard to break it off with someone who will find every reason to make themselves the victim and guilt trip you.

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@NightWing:
I was married to a sociopath: BS and manipulation/LIES:
is their modus operandi.

Hugs, be Strong

just SAY HELL NO and FK YOU "£$%^&*&^%$%^&^%$£$%^&!!!!!!! LOL You can do it :) (half kidding here)

Also, AVOID him. He will suck your energies.

Luna.

yllacsar · 46-50, M

Sex will helpmmm...

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