Get my mom Mother's day gift?

Last year I got her a bakery treat and one small thing. I used to get more gifts years ago...once I got her flowers and she threw them down and said "Why waste your money? I don't like flowers" it was crushing. She has been horrible to me my entire life...ridiculing, tormenting, mocking and has joked about killing me. How she could never get away with that but people on tv can.
She has helped me occasionally if I needed money and that is where I feel guilt. Do I get her something small because of that? (I would be homeless otherwise. But...she really is such a appalling abusive narcissist. )

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Colonelmustardseed · 36-40 Best Comment

We have very different circumstances, but my mom is also very unkind in receiving gifts from my siblings and me. I didn’t want to get her anything, but it’s on my heart that it’s not about what kind of mother she’s been; it’s about who I am as a daughter.
I bet that you’ve always been a thoughtful, sweet, and giving daughter to your mom. She isn’t grateful for it or doesn’t see it, but that doesn’t change the truth about [i]you[/i]. And you don’t need to feel guilty about not getting her something if that’s what you choose, because that wouldn’t change that you wanted to do something nice for her and that that’s how your heart is.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Colonelmustardseed Ty so much 🫂