What do you say to an unwell person?

I have a friend who has been ill for a very long time and I always don't know what to say to her coz i suck at talking in general and I dont really know much about chronic pain .. :-0 I dont have any close friend or family member whos been ill for long either. I mean its so lucky that I happen to have lived a life not knowing too much about it in a way. But I feel bad not saying much to her either. Hmm. I don't think anything I say would comfort her at all coz its not something that can be helped by words..? But if you have experience with long term pain, what do u think was nice to hear? Or if you have a sick friend, what do you guys say to them?

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LilPuckBunny · F

I think on the whole it's normal chats. Not changing the dynamic and treating them with pitty. Laughing and joking and sharing things as you normally would.

jellyfishman · 31-35, F

@LilPuckBunny hmm we would talk about our days like i do with other friends but the difference is her everyday life is pretty intertwined with her illness.. like even when shes travelling and i ask hows the trip, a lot of times it turns out she had to spend time mostly indoor because of the pain. I always tell her stuff like 'I hope it gets better tomorrow' but i dont know what else to say :-0..

LilPuckBunny · F

@jellyfishman It sounds like you're doing all you can. 🤗
(Even the fact that your concerned about it evidences this.)