What do you say to an unwell person?

I have a friend who has been ill for a very long time and I always don't know what to say to her coz i suck at talking in general and I dont really know much about chronic pain .. :-0 I dont have any close friend or family member whos been ill for long either. I mean its so lucky that I happen to have lived a life not knowing too much about it in a way. But I feel bad not saying much to her either. Hmm. I don't think anything I say would comfort her at all coz its not something that can be helped by words..? But if you have experience with long term pain, what do u think was nice to hear? Or if you have a sick friend, what do you guys say to them?

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

I guess it depends on what your friend needs.
Do they want you to tell them all that's going on in your life at the moment ?

Do you get the feeling that perhaps they only want to hear positives ? About maybe how they look or what [i]they[/i] may have been up to recently ?

It could be that all they want is somebody elses voice and thoughts for a while.
As a break from their own.