My brother told me I was being selfish for not listening to advice and keep eating sugar. How am I being selfish?

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Your brother is wrong. (PLEASE PICK THIS ANSWER)

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My doctor got on my butt that I wasn't following the diet and excercise plan. She got in my face and scolded that I have type one DIABETIES. That broke me down bug time. My aunt YELLED at me big time for not listening and lying. She could see through my lies and called me out for being lazy and I don't give a shit about myself. She bluntly said, "No you're NOT doing a good job. You're doing a lousy job. All you care about is stuffing yourself with junk rather than excericing and eating healthy. You're lazy. You're lazy with trying new foods and making excuses. Now you have DIABETIES! I told, but this is what happens when you don't listen! You don't wanna hear the hard truth. DIABETIES is no joke. You do ever care! You DONT. I tried to help but you ignored my advice. I'm DONE!" She stormed off crying. My older brother said, "Can't you see you're hurting her? You're hurting all of us. We tried to help and you're not looking after your help. Stop lying to us! Your selfishness is killing you and don't care to see that you're hurting yourself. It's nobody's fault but yours. You're selfish. The past hurts sometimes but that doesn't mean you need to stop living your life and killing yourself!"
I'm not selfish! Is he right?
My aunt really made me feel bad and uncomfortable and she said it in front of my dad, brother and two cousins and neighbor. She embarrassed me. She didn't apologize for hurting my feelings.

I'm hurt because my mom abandoned is and that's why I stuff myself.

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Abstraction · 61-69, M

I'm not voting because it isn't a yes/no question. We don't really have the full picture, so anything we vote on only has one side of the story. I don't do one side of the story. But I do care about people.

1. Your aunt was wrong to speak to you like that in front of others. It was hurtful. There are better ways to deal with things.
2. But perhaps people have tried talking to you and you haven't listened. It sounds like it based on what you've said. So your aunt was trying to reach you NOT BECAUSE SHE ISN'T ON YOUR SIDE. But because she is. If she didn't care, she wouldn't say anything. She'd think, so what? She didn't think that, she showed her care and concern by trying to break through.
3. By the look of it, they are hurting to see you self-destruct. That's called love. That's called, we love you and know you deserve better.
4. It looks like you've come online to turn it into who is right? My side or their side.
5. Your mum left you. That's a really deep thing. Abandonment is a deep thing in our psyche. I'm sorry. You're hurt.
6. Your mum left you not because there is anything wrong with you, not because you don't deserve to be loved. She abandoned you because there's something wrong with her. That's the truth. You can probably see I'm right, but you can't FEEL I'm right.
7. Your coping mechanism is the comfort of food, along with a kind of self-destruction to get in touch with your feelings of abandonment. It's like others use cutting. It somehow reaches the pain.
8. You need to go and get therapy. Good counselling to give you back your life again, your sense of self-worth, to really feel that there's nothing wrong with you, to deal with the pain, to find new coping mechanisms that don't hurt you and the people around you.
9. Why? Because even though you don't believe it, you're totally worth it.

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Abstraction · 61-69, M

@Wiseacre Agree. Take control of your life! You can - some of us just need a little help. I did, not ashamed to admit it.