My brother told me I was being selfish for not listening to advice and keep eating sugar. How am I being selfish?

Because when the morbidity hit ( amputations , heart disease , renal failure , stroke) ... you family suffered horribly .

I'm not voting because it isn't a yes/no question. We don't really have the full picture, so anything we vote on only has one side of the story. I don't do one side of the story. But I do care about people.


1. Your aunt was wrong to speak to you like that in front of others. It was hurtful. There are better ways to deal with things.
2. But perhaps people have tried talking to you and you haven't listened. It sounds like it based on what you've said. So your aunt was trying to reach you NOT BECAUSE SHE ISN'T ON YOUR SIDE. But because she is. If she didn't care, she wouldn't say anything. She'd think, so what? She didn't think that, she showed her care and concern by trying to break through.
3. By the look of it, they are hurting to see you self-destruct. That's called love. That's called, we love you and know you deserve better.
4. It looks like you've come online to turn it into who is right? My side or their side.
5. Your mum left you. That's a really deep thing. Abandonment is a deep thing in our psyche. I'm sorry. You're hurt.
6. Your mum left you not because there is anything wrong with you, not because you don't deserve to be loved. She abandoned you because there's something wrong with her. That's the truth. You can probably see I'm right, but you can't FEEL I'm right.
7. Your coping mechanism is the comfort of food, along with a kind of self-destruction to get in touch with your feelings of abandonment. It's like others use cutting. It somehow reaches the pain.
8. You need to go and get therapy. Good counselling to give you back your life again, your sense of self-worth, to really feel that there's nothing wrong with you, to deal with the pain, to find new coping mechanisms that don't hurt you and the people around you.
9. Why? Because even though you don't believe it, you're totally worth it.

The reason your brother right is because you choosing to end your life quicker than what you suppose to yes you being selfish you have no idea how much you mean to your brother and the rest of your family and you choose to do things to shorting your life and not considering how your family feels about it they want you around for a long time. Yes it your life and body but until you realize that you hurting your family not listening to your doctor or their health advice they will keep calling you selfish

I think your brother is saying your selfish because your shorting your life and won't be around it you continue at the pace your going, your aunt shouldn't say she is sorry for hurting you with her words, I think they came from her heart in hopes of waking you up to what you are doing to yourself, stuffing yourself because your mother left you when you were five isn't helping you feel better about that is it. Your mother was selfish for keeping you out of her life and one of theses days will see that. You might not be around when that day comes though. Yes your being selfish with the people that love you and care about you, just as your mother was for leaving you out of her life, and her out of yours. Be angry at your mother and stuff her with sweets, but don't harm yourself for her not being a mother

I get where your at. The more people get on at you the less your likely to and end up doing the opposite. You will only ever lose weight because you want to you can only do it for yourself not because your told to

Lying to people you love hurts their feelings. It breaks down the trust they have in you.