I’ve been told by a number of people that if you’re seeing a new therapist that you should test out the waters first

like, tell them bit by bit before really going deep into what’s bothering you…

But how exactly do you do that?

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Just talk honestly with your therapist.
Why has everything got to be a test ?

Have a session or three before making any judgement.

SW-User

@Picklebobble2 You have to make sure they're not bigots or idiots or judgmental. You have to make sure they won't freak out and try to throw you in Crazy Jail if you tell them what you're really thinking about. There are lots of things you have to test, actually. It was a solid 2 years before I trusted the person I was with enough to really open up.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@SW-User Which means you don't take the process seriously from the start.

Which makes it look like you have things to hide because you believe them (whatever they are)to be your 'fault' in some way.

Which means you don't take responsibility.

Which means the process you're going through has little value.

SW-User

@Picklebobble2 Oh, give me a fucking break. Walk a mile in my shoes and you won't wag your finger at me EVER again. You have [i]zero [/i]moral credibility.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@SW-User

I'm not finger wagging it just sounds like you want to try different people on until you find one who might actually agree with the way you think when maybe they're trying to tell you something.

SW-User

@Picklebobble2 Stop trying to assign motivation to me when you don't know anything about why I might be in a therapist's office in the first place.