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Most people feel lonely because they have needs or desires that are not fulfilled, or they have expectations that are not met.
In my own experience, I used to feel lonely if I was not in a relationship, or married, and because I wanted that for myself I made hasty or unwise choices. I was unwilling to suffer that feeling of needs not met, but in the end, I suffered much more because I was unwise.
Now that I am alone, I feel an immense sense of relief that the suffering inflicted by the ex is over. When I feel the impulse to find someone else, all I do is remember what happened, and I am so, so happy to be alone.
The only time I feel lonely now is when my son is supposed to see me for my birthday or mother's day, and he blows me off. That still hurts, and I feel lonely all that day, but it is quickly over.
In my own experience, I used to feel lonely if I was not in a relationship, or married, and because I wanted that for myself I made hasty or unwise choices. I was unwilling to suffer that feeling of needs not met, but in the end, I suffered much more because I was unwise.
Now that I am alone, I feel an immense sense of relief that the suffering inflicted by the ex is over. When I feel the impulse to find someone else, all I do is remember what happened, and I am so, so happy to be alone.
The only time I feel lonely now is when my son is supposed to see me for my birthday or mother's day, and he blows me off. That still hurts, and I feel lonely all that day, but it is quickly over.