The people who tell you to lose weight are the first to offer you rich food

i think if someone has a weight problem they are never the only reason for it. the lifestyle and people around you are part of the problem.

One possible answer to people who do this is to ask them, " If I were an alcoholic, would you put whisky in front of me and urge me to drink it? If I were quitting smoking, would you insist it wouldn't hurt me to smoke a cigarette?"

It should also be pointed out that husbands who tell their wives they're overweight and then sabotage diets are often fearful of their wives being attractive to other men. They fear she might have more choices and would then not choose them.

And if you're the fattest lady in the room, other women are often glad because if you became slim, it would shake up the social dominance order and that might put them in a place of less social status. In other words, those who point out our weight problem are often unconsciously glad to feel superior and they don't really want that to change.

Not everybody acts like this. I'm the opposite, if you're doing a diet I could be severe on what you can eat when I'm around.
But generally I don't start saying what you do or should not do, it's your own decision.

really, friends & relations who try to sabotage you like that are *not* friends to you.

I do practice what I preach, and I preach about healthy eating all the time. That scenario does occur often though and Ive notcied it a lot in my work environment, people giving incorrect information on diets and healthy eating, but doesnt follow it themselves or like to be disagreed with.

They are simply sabotaging your efforts.

very true ..the universe is conspiring against you