I don't know if I have ever mentioned
How much I dislike BDMS relationships.
I don't have an issue if other people are in them and exceptionally happy. I'm happy for them and hope they are getting out of it what they need/want.
For me, my experiences have always been the man wants to be a dominant or *ick* "master" even though they can't even control their own lives. They use the Ds relationship as a way to not become emotionally involved because they feel they don't have to show weaknessess. They were hurt in past relationships, so being in charge makes it so they can't be hurt.
I call these men domlings and sadly, they are everywhere and mostly predatory. They have zero knowledge about being a master or dominant and commit some of the worst manipulative abuses around.
Ask him if he knows what "after care" is. If they give you some short answer, run away from them. If they say they are so good it isn't necessary, call the police. They will kill you.
Is the BDSM relationship good for some people? Sure! You just aren't going to find someone who isn't dangerous online. Go to your local munches, meet and greets and physically meet people. You will hear by word of mouth who is safe and who isn't, who to avoid and who to report. The BDSM community is very tight and is protective of its own. If they aren't, find a new community.
Quit looking online if you value your life and mental health. Please.
I don't have an issue if other people are in them and exceptionally happy. I'm happy for them and hope they are getting out of it what they need/want.
For me, my experiences have always been the man wants to be a dominant or *ick* "master" even though they can't even control their own lives. They use the Ds relationship as a way to not become emotionally involved because they feel they don't have to show weaknessess. They were hurt in past relationships, so being in charge makes it so they can't be hurt.
I call these men domlings and sadly, they are everywhere and mostly predatory. They have zero knowledge about being a master or dominant and commit some of the worst manipulative abuses around.
Ask him if he knows what "after care" is. If they give you some short answer, run away from them. If they say they are so good it isn't necessary, call the police. They will kill you.
Is the BDSM relationship good for some people? Sure! You just aren't going to find someone who isn't dangerous online. Go to your local munches, meet and greets and physically meet people. You will hear by word of mouth who is safe and who isn't, who to avoid and who to report. The BDSM community is very tight and is protective of its own. If they aren't, find a new community.
Quit looking online if you value your life and mental health. Please.
