Negativity Is Like The Sea

…it can only sink your ship, if you let it in.

After several years of significant chronic lower back pain, I was determined to do something about it in the Spring of 2024. I’m currently rehabilitated with a few flare-ups from time to time and some dull nagging pain. I started lifting again 3 weeks ago, this time with joint health as the number one priority and muscle growth coming in second. At that time, I was resolved to dial in my nutrition and sleep as well. I designed a grazing meal plan to meet my macronutrient targets and it’s going great. I did a sleep test and went on a CPAP to remedy my sleep apnea.

I haven’t felt this high and light on my feet since my mid-30’s.

There’s an unexpected cost. My family thinks I’m starving myself. My extended family says sacrificing food and alcohol isn’t sustainable and I’m headed for disaster. Friends and coworkers have told me there’s not a chance they’d walk this path. I have not one person in my corner, cheering me on.

It’s pretty crappy of me to drop in, puke up these life events and bail for a while, I know, but it doesn’t seem to be good news, outside of the anonymous crowd of SW.

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BillyMack · 46-50, M

I’ve come to realize that for some people, especially those who don’t want to cheer you on, they’re more reflecting on themselves and think you’re making them look bad.

It’s the older parents who think eating is about fellowship so the types of food don’t matter and shouldn’t be about eating to be healthy.

It’s the friendships that are surprised when you cut back on your drinking, or stop altogether, because it’s about having fun and not about trying to be a better you.

It’s the spouse that worries you’ll leave them behind because you’re losing weight, getting fitter and doing things they don’t want.

You’re doing what you think is best for you. And it sounds like you’re doing better than they are. So props to you. Hope you continue to grow and improve in the ways you want.

FeelingItAll · 41-45, M

@BillyMack I legit needed to hear that. I won’t from folks that know me, but I do get the sense that the extended family thinks my improving will make them look bad and that’s really their only concern.

I do find it odd that no one seemed concerned when my diet, drinking and lack of sleep were on the path to killing me. But they are tuned in when it comes to taking better care of myself

BillyMack · 46-50, M

@FeelingItAll sadly all those things I mentioned I’ve experienced first hand. So I get it. Just keep on pushing.