A girl I was seeing who was making me feel absolutely worthless was hiding a BPD diagnosis. Eh =/

@MyNameIsHurl I'm a mental health practitioner. She didnt tell me she had it. i even point blank asked her if she had anything and she denied it. But i noticed her doing the same things as a bpd ex and being made to feel just as she did. She ended up discarding after she had been stringing me along with the idea of a meet which was meant to be with this month. Took a step back and thought through my studies. And wow. After discussing the BPD literature with Gemini, wow, it's insane how manipulative they are. "pre emptive andpro active triangulation" those are new terms to me. How it's both so simple but complex, and how this is being done by a brain damaged person to someone neurotypical, and somehow they manage to get their way emotionally, when they are the ones who aren't able to understand or express emotions.

@Therealsteve yep, and they can be dangerous

@MyNameIsHurl Sheesh yeah tell me about it. The last bpd triangulated me against a "love of her life" who didnt even exist. SHe;d leave made up chat logs with "him" to find. In one of them she told him she would accuse him of sexual assault unless he dated her. (btw back then i didnt know anything about the disorder, since got certified). Long story short (because every single thing they ever do is a multi layered manipulation game) In reference to seeing that message i said to her "did you ever accuse of him of something that could ruin his life?" "Maybe?" "Would you do the same to me?" "Maybe". And she'd constantly send me pictures of women all bruised and welted telling me she needed a "real beating" framing it as BDSM and when i told her I'd want clear, CLEAR written rules for doing that, she'd refuse. Terrifying, tbh. But she got me in a state of wanting to run back to that mess. In fairness, this new one denied she had any conditions. And you know what they are like, having you believe you've found the one.