What does it mean when your partner asks you this?

So you are having a hard time with your mental health and you feel you can’t talk with them. And things are quite tense. Then you tell them about the thoughts you are having and you end up in tears with their brutal words to you. Then they say “ be honest with me, do you want to be with someone else, is that why you are giving me a hard time?” But they see you are not in the right place mentally so why would you consider someone else?! .. is this a hint about them?

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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

Sometimes people are so wrapped up in their own emotions that they can't hear you.
So what I hear is insecurity on their part, that's not a fault, it just is what it is. It can feel accusatory or critical even if it comes from a place of hurt.

I would ask if he feels secure about your relationship and say you wanna make sure he's alright because it's important. He might tell you something that you weren't aware of.

Then you can say how you felt and that you feel you need some support and that you'd be really greatful if he could be there for you in that way. It's just trying to meet them on their level of understanding first so they don't feel clouded when you tell them.

Now that may not be the case, but it's highly likely and it's quite common. I speak from experience being on the other end of that and being the person you are in that situation.
Give that a try first.