My SW life is adversely affecting my health. How do you compartmentalize?

Veteran SW Members: Please tell me how you compartmentalize your SW life from your real one. I am really struggling here. I have been an SW member for almost ten weeks. I am feeling guilty because I am hiding my presence here from my husband. He would never understand, even though he is the driving force for showing up. (For clarification, read my first posted story.)

But unfortunately, that guilt is manifesting itself through stress, and subconsciously causing me weight loss, excessive clenching of my teeth all the time, resulting in jaw pain and headaches. I actually had to go to the dentist today to obtain an apparatus, it's gotten so bad.

I really like my new SW life, but I have got to get a grip on this, or else I have to say "Peace Out!" Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

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AllAboutLaffs · 70-79, M

This was written about a month ago .... how is it for you now ??

GlamGirl · F

@AllAboutLaffs: Well...not much has changed. Some days, my SW life gets simpler and I think I can handle it all. Other days, I get frustrated because I made it much more complicated. My guilt is always lingering in the background and my decision to come clean to DH, is always on my mind. I think I am getting better at compartmentalizing, but my balance is all off. I know I spend far more time here than I should. My health is still indirectly affected, so basically, I am still a hot mess, three months in. But thanks for checking on me.✨

AllAboutLaffs · 70-79, M

@GlamGirl: If only you could see SW as YOUR guilty pleasure .... and that's all ... with no negative afterthoughts. I hope you can have this one little segment that is yours and yours alone ... and be happy with it and for it.

GlamGirl · F

@AllAboutLaffs: I am really trying to see it that way. I do need it. It's my subconscious that won't accept it.

AllAboutLaffs · 70-79, M

@GlamGirl: Check PM