My SW life is adversely affecting my health. How do you compartmentalize?

Veteran SW Members: Please tell me how you compartmentalize your SW life from your real one. I am really struggling here. I have been an SW member for almost ten weeks. I am feeling guilty because I am hiding my presence here from my husband. He would never understand, even though he is the driving force for showing up. (For clarification, read my first posted story.)

But unfortunately, that guilt is manifesting itself through stress, and subconsciously causing me weight loss, excessive clenching of my teeth all the time, resulting in jaw pain and headaches. I actually had to go to the dentist today to obtain an apparatus, it's gotten so bad.

I really like my new SW life, but I have got to get a grip on this, or else I have to say "Peace Out!" Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

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Ghauzy · 51-55, M

Folks in here already gave you good advice and I wouldn't add much else.

What I would tell you though is that you'll get through this. This experience will help you see who you really are and the great strength you carry inside.

All the best to you.

GlamGirl · F

@Ghauzy: Thank you so much! I have already learned so much in my short time here. It has been a very enlightening experience. One I hope to continue in some way shape or form.

Ghauzy · 51-55, M

You're kindly welcome. There is so much in this place that it's easy to get overboard, specially when dormant needs and gaps find a way to be addressed like never before. Nevertheless, as you learn about yourself and how to keep the right amount, you eventually get to settle at what works best for you.

GlamGirl · F

@Ghauzy: I am trying to maneuver and find that perfect balance. I have a ways to go yet. Thanks for your wisdom and perspective!

Ghauzy · 51-55, M

I'm happy to lend a word or an ear when you need one 😊