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What I Learned in the Past 48 Hours From SW...

The other day, as I was fielding *ahem, possibly deleting* messages, from SW members, wanting to get to know me better, I came to realize some things, that I truly need to keep in mind while on this site. These realizations may seem so obvious, but it's easy to detach yourself online, because we aren't sitting face-to-face, across from each other at a coffee shop, really seeing each other's expressions, body language, voice intonations, or merely how they like their latte.

I learned not to assume things about a person, based on the groups they join. Their group choices may turn you off, and seem excessive, offensive, or not your cup of tea, but don't be afraid to dig a little deeper. Ask thoughtful questions and pull them from behind those groups banners. Sometimes, just sometimes, they might surprise you. They may be entirely different than your first impression and how you pegged them. You, in turn, may surprise them. They end up being so much more than you envisioned, doing great things in and for the world. These wonderful SW members are just waiting to emerge, and been seen, and heard, and discovered...if we just take the time.

I know it's impossible and not feasible to make connections with everyone you come across. But if you have a moment of hesitation about someone, and your index finger is hovering over the "delete this message" box, listen to your instincts and reconsider getting to know them, if even only for a short time. Because, if you do, they might bless your life in ways, you can only imagine. Everyone here has something special to offer. Let's embrace those differences and grow as a community. 💌
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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I agree and disagree. There is of course much more to a person than a list of groups, but at the same time the groups they choose are to some extent a representation of their mindset. If someone has 95% sexual groups, then the chances are highly likely all they want to discuss is sex. If that isn't what you are here for, then you're unlikely to pull out of them much more than that.
The groups we pick, the posts we write and the people we friend all speak to this same effect. It doesn't tell you everything so at times digging deeper is important, but the latter is a good way to make a determination on someone's character overall. :)
GlamGirl · F
I couldn't agree with you more, and your example is exactly what I encountered the other day. But I took the chance, questioned their intention, raised the bar, and found out the groups they liked were a fraction of who they really were, as a person. It may not be that way every time, but I was certainly blown away by who was really behind all their group banners. Good luck! ✨