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Serenitree · F
Tell your friend to ignore the jerks and just talk to the ones who can communicate in a civil manner. Even a heated discussion can be civil.
Jan. 14/27
3:59 am
Jan. 14/27
3:59 am
Gingerwithasoul · F
It seems odd they would assume I am targeting them? I do not know them, odd.
Serenitree · F
@Gingerwithasoul: I actually understand it, but it's so difficult to explain without going into a long lecture. Let's just say, that in some vault in the deep dark recesses of their mind, there's a place where they hide all the guilty thoughts they've ever had. If something you say, taps on the door to that vault, they get this urge to fight back, because it feels like an accusation.
Okay, fine. I'm speaking for myself. The things that make me feel like fighting are the things that tap that well of buried guilt. I can't say it's like that for everyone. But it's my guess that I'm pretty typical.
Jan. 14/17
4:09 am
Okay, fine. I'm speaking for myself. The things that make me feel like fighting are the things that tap that well of buried guilt. I can't say it's like that for everyone. But it's my guess that I'm pretty typical.
Jan. 14/17
4:09 am
Gingerwithasoul · F
@Serenitree: Alright that makes sense, but you can expect people to bare your guilt for you. But why not state that opinion and not try to bully others out of theirs? That is what I cannot understand.
Serenitree · F
@Gingerwithasoul: that's why I said it's hard to explain. Not everyone realizes it. They just feel a rise in blood pressure and an adrenalin rush. Many would never admit even to themselves that you've touched on something they don't want to acknowledge. They just feel attacked, without knowing why you're attacking them. You're not, but it feels like that to those of us who bury our shameful secrets and try to forget we have them.
Jan. 14/17
4:22 am
Jan. 14/17
4:22 am
Gingerwithasoul · F
@Serenitree: I can understand that.
Serenitree · F
@Gingerwithasoul: 😊