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bijouxbroussard · F
It’s abuse.
Presumably you don’t want your child to become a bully. But corporal punishment is basically teaching them, by example, that if you’re bigger and stronger, hitting someone is the way to get them to do what you want.
And you look at the people who claim such childhoods did them no harm, but have all these posts around school beatings, etc.
They’re damaged.
Presumably you don’t want your child to become a bully. But corporal punishment is basically teaching them, by example, that if you’re bigger and stronger, hitting someone is the way to get them to do what you want.
And you look at the people who claim such childhoods did them no harm, but have all these posts around school beatings, etc.
They’re damaged.
froggtongue · M
@bijouxbroussard I've heard that the opposite is true. That bullies haven't gotten beat up and so don't know how it feels to be on the opposite end. Therefore leading to their inability to empathize with other people as victims.
bijouxbroussard · F
@froggtongue I’ve seen what I’m talking about. Being abused doesn’t guarantee empathy. Too often it engenders a desire in someone who’s been hurt to take it out on others.
ElwoodBlues · M
@froggtongue @bijouxbroussard Here's a serious reference on the effects of corporal punishment: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048/
Even with these controls, physical punishment between the ages of six and nine years predicted higher levels of antisocial behavior two years later. Subsequent prospective studies yielded similar results, whether they controlled for parental age, child age, race and family structure; poverty, child age, ...
Physical punishment is associated with a range of mental health problems in children, youth and adults, including depression, unhappiness, anxiety, feelings of hopelessness, use of drugs and alcohol, and general psychological maladjustment.
... no study has found physical punishment to have a long-term positive effect, and most studies have found negative effects.