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HijabaDabbaDoo · F
I think it's lazy parenting to resort to smacking a child. Children are figuring out their emotions at a different pace and volume to adults. They don't need someone to hinder that process. They need healthy copying mechanisms and guidance.
The way we were raised doesn't mean shit. "Well I turned out okay?" Did you though? You don't need to be traumatised for something to impact you. I've seen so many emotionally stunted adults that although don't mean harm, they justify raising their hand under the assumption that it corrects a child behaviour.
It doesn't. It's just lazy because to engage with words means to commit more energy. I don't expect any adult to have it right all the time but i'd much rather teach my child true safety and security than to make them feel like they need to suppress their emotions. That shits gonna come out one way or another anyway so let's figure it out together.
The way we were raised doesn't mean shit. "Well I turned out okay?" Did you though? You don't need to be traumatised for something to impact you. I've seen so many emotionally stunted adults that although don't mean harm, they justify raising their hand under the assumption that it corrects a child behaviour.
It doesn't. It's just lazy because to engage with words means to commit more energy. I don't expect any adult to have it right all the time but i'd much rather teach my child true safety and security than to make them feel like they need to suppress their emotions. That shits gonna come out one way or another anyway so let's figure it out together.
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
@HijabaDabbaDoo whoever thumbed down is asking for a punch. It's not abuse tho, it's just to correct your behaviour 🫶🏽
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ElwoodBlues · M
@Kenworth4954 Here's a serious reference on the effects of corporal punishment: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048/
Even with these controls, physical punishment between the ages of six and nine years predicted higher levels of antisocial behaviour two years later. Subsequent prospective studies yielded similar results, whether they controlled for parental age, child age, race and family structure; poverty, child age, ...
Physical punishment is associated with a range of mental health problems in children, youth and adults, including depression, unhappiness, anxiety, feelings of hopelessness, use of drugs and alcohol, and general psychological maladjustment.
... no study has found physical punishment to have a long-term positive effect, and most studies have found negative effects.
PhoenixPhail · M
@HijabaDabbaDoo Very well said.