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Some users are really social, while others are on that many platforms, all their focus is only on what they post themselves, becuase they spread themselves so thin.
In a way, (i think), these users, (like you mentioned), really arent that sociable, even thought they think they are. They think they talk to other people alot ....but really - its all about themselves - its not really stretching their sociability.
Its not reaching out of their comfort zone.
Girls/women are prolly the worst offenders of this:
•Post a pretty pic - and wait for the replies to roll in.
•Act vulnerable, depreciate urself - and wait for the pandering to begin.
....if you never look beyond yourself, pay attention to others, care about others - what's the point ?
- you become this solitary planet orbiting your own sun.
Its shiny and bright for a while.....but eventually it'll be lonely.
In a way, (i think), these users, (like you mentioned), really arent that sociable, even thought they think they are. They think they talk to other people alot ....but really - its all about themselves - its not really stretching their sociability.
Its not reaching out of their comfort zone.
Girls/women are prolly the worst offenders of this:
•Post a pretty pic - and wait for the replies to roll in.
•Act vulnerable, depreciate urself - and wait for the pandering to begin.
....if you never look beyond yourself, pay attention to others, care about others - what's the point ?
- you become this solitary planet orbiting your own sun.
Its shiny and bright for a while.....but eventually it'll be lonely.
Tumbleweed · F
I've noticed that myself & I think it's rude
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Tumbleweed · F
@OogieBoogie This one was all "nobody loves me" blah balh blah and then made another post asking what nationality she looks like and I think you were replied to that one when I asked her why she asks questions but never responds when people answer...
OogieBoogie · F
@Tumbleweed oh yeah....i saw the second one about nationality.
Ive seen users do similar before.
What i dont get is : how short is their attention span to themselves ?
How much attention do they need to be fed?
Sounds high maintenance to me🤷♀
Ive seen users do similar before.
What i dont get is : how short is their attention span to themselves ?
How much attention do they need to be fed?
Sounds high maintenance to me🤷♀
Tumbleweed · F
@OogieBoogie needy
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Some only communicate in their posts and I think it's fine but there are a few that won't even respond to your comment. That's what I find rude.
Censoring and not sending notifications plays a big part in it too. I remember a few conversations I had and didn't get a notification when I would expect a reply, it's possible that the person I talked with disengaged but often I think it was simply censored and I didn't get the notification.
Censoring and not sending notifications plays a big part in it too. I remember a few conversations I had and didn't get a notification when I would expect a reply, it's possible that the person I talked with disengaged but often I think it was simply censored and I didn't get the notification.
OogieBoogie · F
@CrazyMusicLover to be honest - i chose not to get notifications rt, but i do attempt to reply when i get back on.
Although - sometimes life is shitty, so there are times i come back, and i feel its just 'all too much' to attend every reply.
(Then later i feel guilty about it)
Everyone is different in how they use this place.
Although - sometimes life is shitty, so there are times i come back, and i feel its just 'all too much' to attend every reply.
(Then later i feel guilty about it)
Everyone is different in how they use this place.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@OogieBoogie Yeah, sometimes it just fizzles out, real life happens and you don't have will or even energy to get back to some conversations. I totally get that. But accidentally coming across a hdden reply on something I said much much later because I never got notification taughed me that not every conversation ended because the other person got disinterested.
Frostcloud · F
i think it can be just users interacting with the same people. but theres definitely active users i might occasionally see respond to other people, but i have never seen post. even if, when i click on their profile, they do post while im online. i think the bigger issue is how sw organizes the feed
@Nuno @Andrew i am begging 🙏
@Nuno @Andrew i am begging 🙏
I get ignored when I reply to others unless it's a certain few and then the algorithm fcks it all up too
beermeplease · M
@V00doo yes the algorithm can screw things up but i have made enough posts on here where certain users on here have surely seen them but have never reacted or replied
@beermeplease I dont see yours often
beermeplease · M
@V00doo but at least you pop in once in a while and say hello 🤗
SUPERVlXEN · F
I find it more remarkable when they never react on those responding to their posts.
beermeplease · M
@SUPERVlXEN yep....that's when i chose not to reply/react anymore
SomeMichGuy · M
Yes.
And some of those who don't write / respond to replies complain about people "only" having an emoji reaction with no comment(s)...!
No idea how they are so asymmetric...
And some of those who don't write / respond to replies complain about people "only" having an emoji reaction with no comment(s)...!
No idea how they are so asymmetric...
HannahSky · F
They only pay attention to their own posts?
beermeplease · M
@HannahSky seems that way most times
HannahSky · F
@beermeplease It does happen. It's a little strange. Self obsessed.
OR people who do nothing but criticize posts but never create posts of their own.
minxy · 46-50, F
More often than not, I'd love to see posts by other people, more people.
For a while there I had to go to the person's profile to see what they'd posted and we're following each other.
Yet I look at a post and then see 20 other posts of theirs pop up on my feed.
It'd be nice if they didn't break what didn't need fixing.
For a while there I had to go to the person's profile to see what they'd posted and we're following each other.
Yet I look at a post and then see 20 other posts of theirs pop up on my feed.
It'd be nice if they didn't break what didn't need fixing.
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
There are those who interact with me only with emojis or who have outright claimed they don't know who I am, like they are some super exclusive celebrity as they peck on their kb from their dank dungeon, in Poughkeepsie.
OogieBoogie · F
@pancakeslam honestly ?
I think we can get users mixed up. Some have similar names or similar modes of speech or interests etc.
Its hard when we dont always have a face to put to a person .
I think we can get users mixed up. Some have similar names or similar modes of speech or interests etc.
Its hard when we dont always have a face to put to a person .
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
@OogieBoogie maybe. just depends on the situation. I think sometimes they're BSing me. Anyways I don't mind being unknown. I prefer to hide under my rock.
OogieBoogie · F
@pancakeslam same.
I think being in the background gives one more freedom and less expectation to 'be' a particular way 🤗
I think being in the background gives one more freedom and less expectation to 'be' a particular way 🤗
Wallflow3r · F
I find it funny when people make posts on here but don't reply to any of the comments or make effort to interact with anyone, and then complain later that there posts get no attention and that "SW is dead"
Prettybratbi1tch · 26-30, F
Maybe they only make posts not reply , who knows
Prettybratbi1tch · 26-30, F
@beermeplease not everyone sees it that way or they'll only respond to people they're comfortable with
beermeplease · M
@Prettybratbi1tch i've been on here for a while now where certain users know who i am and what i stand for. i am harmless. i have replied and reacted to their posts in a positive manner yet they never respond to mine....i could tell you who but that's not who i am
OogieBoogie · F
@beermeplease to butt in - i think its also a changing social expectation.
I think SW is more chatty than other sites - the culture still has a little old school retro feel,🤗 which encourages conversation.
Some other sites are about posting for views, likes and accruing numbers.(Ie: maxium illusionary popularity for minimal input).
It makes people feel popular without putting in any effort.
I think SW is more chatty than other sites - the culture still has a little old school retro feel,🤗 which encourages conversation.
Some other sites are about posting for views, likes and accruing numbers.(Ie: maxium illusionary popularity for minimal input).
It makes people feel popular without putting in any effort.
It's hard to reply to reactions, though...
beermeplease · M
@HootyTheNightOwl react with a reply 🙂
@beermeplease And get reported for calling people out??? I'll pass unless I know they're friends who will stand up for me...
Sapio · 51-55, M
Comes across kinda self-centered doesn't it?
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
I've noticed that and don't think it's right.
FreeSpirit1 · F
Askholes?
Juvia · 18-21, F
I only see like maybe 3 people on my feed at a time, sometimes posts from a week ago. It only changes sometimes when I interact with someone else. Then that person shows up in my feed. Then it just rotates.
greensnacks · 31-35, F
You've been muted my fren
beermeplease · M
@greensnacks why?
greensnacks · 31-35, F
@beermeplease they muted you.
OogieBoogie · F
Thanks for BC 🤗
I think it's because we're the Real People, we're boring to them, that we have to embellish or be creative with our posts to get hits, our headlines have to stand out enough to grab their attention.
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Magenta · F
@OliviaOfTheNight Lol! Add some Cleavage and talk about sex and bam, instant popularity.