I finally 'let go'

@RunTheJulz thanks. Its about 2 years since our last contact. Thats when i knew for sure i'd been lied too...tho i suspected many times....and turned a blind eye.
Hey ho....lessons learned.

@RubySoo I have been lied to by people on here who I considered friends and I don’t know what they got out of it but it definitely shook my sense of what’s real and what’s not.
I think the most obvious lie was a “woman” who was in the same age bracket as I am and who claimed that she was interested in being friends and I would never say “no thanks” because I could always use a friend. It started out pretty innocent and then I started to get the sense that they had become fixated and they claimed to be attracted to me and I made it very clear that I had no plans to meet anyone on here in real life. I decided to try and diffuse the situation and asked them what their husband would think about their “online affair” which is actually what they called it. And they said that they weren’t married but I commented on the picture of them in their wedding dress and their husband in a tux and they claimed that it wasn’t a real wedding picture it was a Halloween costume. I felt like they must think I am pretty stupid if I were to believe that. They got even more ridiculous with their lies and I just asked them to stop messaging me and I stopped responding but I eventually had to block them for leaving inappropriate comments and messages on my posts especially my pics. I truly feel sorry for them and anyone else who is not living in reality because I believe that a lot of unhappy people decide to make this unhealthy mistake and then it seems like it takes over. At least that’s what I’ve seen in my experiences with it. Mental health is a very important and overlooked issue in our society at large and I joined this site to help keep my mental health in the green zone because I was/am unable to work and socialize as I’ve been used to due to my chronic pain syndrome and I recognize that this place can be valid and valuable resource and tool to use for my needs. It can also be a place where people avoid their reality and they have to be responsible for themselves nobody can do it for anyone else. I try to encourage kindness because it’s not difficult and it’s seemingly in short supply especially in anonymous communities like this one.
I know that there are people who are in painful and difficult situations on here so I try to tread carefully and respectfully and lift up anyone that I can and stay away from people that I fear will only drag me down 😊☺️

@4meAndyou this one is long overdue..lol.

Things are tricky of late with family issues...but thats life.
Online bs is something i've finally learned i can live without. X

@RubySoo Stay strong and beautiful! 🤗🤗🤗

@4meAndyou 🤗🤗🤗 i shall try my friend x

@scorpiolovedeep This. <3

@VeronicaJane i was dreadfully sad to find the person was fake. I have given them 2 years to contact me to try to make sense of it all, but they didn't. So i needed to do this for closure.

@Reject i remember Sweetie. I really do.
I sorry you still feel 'stuck'.
You know how I felt about my friend back then, and I knew about yours.
I dont know if you read my morecrecent posts, but 2 years ago i found my friend was using photos from an instagram account with a similar name. That person was gracious enough to talk with me and i was fully satisfied hed no idea who i was meaning my friend ( and anotger mutual friend) was using pics taken from this insta account. So....i confronted tgem both and i was instantly blocked on their email addys.....and they putbtheir acvounts here on hiatus. Never heard from either of them since. Yet i clung to hope id get an explaination......5 years of friendship couldnt have all been lies...right?? Who knows. Im over it now.

You knew what you had was with a real person. So i totally get that you still hope that message will arrive.
Hugs hunni. Xx

@RubySoo I think the connection you had with your friend was genuine even if it was made behind that facade. People often need very specific circumstances before they can open up and be who they truly are. Unfortunately that can often mean hiding something that’s holding them back. That must have been difficult to go through, but any progress you’ve made is admirable. 🤗