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scorpiolovedeep this is a fine question that’s not easily answered.
Firstly, I must say, I’m not looking for love, so that removes a huge chunk of concern, also, I enjoy liars and good story tellers. But only on a surface level, not as real friends. What I look for is tailored to my nonsense and tastes.
Also, I rarely, if ever tell them I know. Directly.
Say they tell you they travel, but only show pictures with them in them, or better, choose only photos from well known locations. This whispers to me something is up. But what exactly?? That’s what you start watching for. The answers to the actual intent.
Keep in mind that no one online in places like this owes any of us honesty. We all have a right to privacy and secrets in these fun groups of strangers, so often times what they share is what they are comfortable with. Just because something is van off doesn’t mean they are liars.
Pay attention to what they say. Take notes if you are so inclined. Liars will, over and over, contradict themselves or change their stories. For example, children that age backwards, their job roll may shift, the car they drive may change. It’s little things you look for that will begin to pile up over the weeks or months of getting to know one another.
Also pay attention to others as you get to know them. The two or three with identical stories are always the same people. So when you think ‘huh, what are the chances of both of them having a sister with this exact same life altering illness with the same outcomes and complications’.
I have many other tips but they are very circumstance specific. So…
But once you think you know, don’t tell them. Just watch and when you start to doubt yourself ask yourself why. Pay attention to their goals. Is it to know you or to show you what a great person they are? Are they someone seeking a savior or are they trying to find a way into your wallet. Are they going out of their way to gain your trust and if so, why. Did they play stupid or are they unintentional/ passive in the stupid things they do.