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How are you filtering fake / untrustworthy ones on SW

Poll - Total Votes: 31
Integrity of their posts / comments or lack of
Not similar minded to you on certain topics
Sending dodgy DMs or similar
People is acting differently in different posts
One day they like you , one day they avoid you
After observing / noticing a few comments
Profile / Photo / Content etc
Threw you under the bus in a post or DM or a comment
Lack of thoughtfulness or kindness etc
Gossip / spreading rumours
Back stabbing
Friend messaging you about that person
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4meAndyou · F
If someone decides to follow me, I check their about me section, their groups, and their friends. If I like all of it, I add them as friends.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Good filtering process @4meAndyou
calicuz · 56-60, M
It's actually easier for me to assume that everyone is fake, and let the real ones reveal themselves.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
And how are they revealing themselves to you ?


@calicuz
calicuz · 56-60, M
@scorpiolovedeep

By their posts and comments.
One at a time. And only on an as needed basis.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Yes , but how ? @nonsensiclesnail
Example ?
@scorpiolovedeep this is a fine question that’s not easily answered.
Firstly, I must say, I’m not looking for love, so that removes a huge chunk of concern, also, I enjoy liars and good story tellers. But only on a surface level, not as real friends. What I look for is tailored to my nonsense and tastes.
Also, I rarely, if ever tell them I know. Directly.

Say they tell you they travel, but only show pictures with them in them, or better, choose only photos from well known locations. This whispers to me something is up. But what exactly?? That’s what you start watching for. The answers to the actual intent.
Keep in mind that no one online in places like this owes any of us honesty. We all have a right to privacy and secrets in these fun groups of strangers, so often times what they share is what they are comfortable with. Just because something is van off doesn’t mean they are liars.

Pay attention to what they say. Take notes if you are so inclined. Liars will, over and over, contradict themselves or change their stories. For example, children that age backwards, their job roll may shift, the car they drive may change. It’s little things you look for that will begin to pile up over the weeks or months of getting to know one another.

Also pay attention to others as you get to know them. The two or three with identical stories are always the same people. So when you think ‘huh, what are the chances of both of them having a sister with this exact same life altering illness with the same outcomes and complications’.

I have many other tips but they are very circumstance specific. So…

But once you think you know, don’t tell them. Just watch and when you start to doubt yourself ask yourself why. Pay attention to their goals. Is it to know you or to show you what a great person they are? Are they someone seeking a savior or are they trying to find a way into your wallet. Are they going out of their way to gain your trust and if so, why. Did they play stupid or are they unintentional/ passive in the stupid things they do.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Very good points there , well said.
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@nonsensiclesnail
Whodunnit · M
Gut instinct
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Unquestioned · 70-79, M
I see it and ignore it, it's just an online social site and nothing to do with my day to day life. I see them as not worth bothering with, I don't give a damn about them going behind my back, spreading rumours about me, trolling me, blocking me or anything else. I have a great life in real life, with a few awesome friends.
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