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56-60, M
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Jacefrehley · 56-60, M
I bought a puppy today!! Rocko as the girls have named him will be ready for us to take home in 3 weeks. He's a Shih tzu x pappilon and doesn't shed, also he is hypoallergenic. The girls were sooooooooo excited when we got to his house as I told them I had a surprise and they were trying to guess and get me to tell them in the car there. it was only a short drive (5 mins) so I deflected all the questions well. There was 3 boys to choose from, the runt and 2 others. They initially fell in love with the runt, but I know they have health issues and this one was less active that the others so they quickly change their minds and chose Rocko (Rocco?). As we got in the car to leave Somer said 'I miss him'...bless.
I have started feeling a lot better about the seperation and I think this is me going into the final stage of grief, 'Acceptance'. I have realised that I don't really want Sarah anymore. She showed her usual colours today. Our freind who is 80, came around for a coffee while walking the dog. He asked me whether I wanted to go to the pub with him. I said I would ask Sarah if I could go down for a couple. Sarah had been on the treadmill and we saw her when we came down the stairs. I mentioned that Bryan had asked if I wanted to go to the pub for an hour and if it was OK. She flew into a strop 'Justine asked me to go to the pub but I turned her down because you were cooking a curry for us!' She hadn't mentioned she was invited by Justine and normally, as she's going out of the door she says she's going for a drink with whoever and that's that. It was 3pm and I still made the curry with the girls helping and went to the pub, but Bryan had already decide to have a beer at home with Shirley. He invited me to stay for one but I only had an hour so I politely declined. When I got home Sarah asked if I had gone with Bryan and I said he had made other plans and she flew into another strop about me not staying for a drink with them....I can't win! Later she calmed down and came to talk to me outside. We chatted for awhile and I asked her whether she would be better off selling the big house and buying something smaller and cheaper down the road. This was not a good idea... I don't want her to be broke when we divvy things up and she can't look after this property on a 1/2 acre on her own. When we bought this house it was a 110 sqm/1200sq feet house with a double garage. Over 10 years of work and investment we have done many things including lining the garage and that is now my son's room, more that doubling the size of the house, building a 75sgm/800sqf shed with an office to run our business. I have done a lot of work including painting, building decks etc. I think you get the picture. It was to be our forever home. A place to bring up the kids and run our businesses that we had both put so much into. We have 10 years of memories here. To walk away and let her bring her new man into MY house would be devastating...... He doesn't have a clue about the history of this place.... so in addition to wanting her to reduce her asset value and get some money to work with I have that thought.
Things just got real on the business sale too as we have just listed with a broker and we had a conference call with interested buyers. They are really keen to make an offer and are coming down to see us on Monday. When the bueiness sells we will have to seperate everything out...bank accounts, property, money etc. Sarah was very excited by the potential but I felt flat....that would be the end.....I know it's coming but I don't have to be happy about it do I? Thanks for reading x
I have started feeling a lot better about the seperation and I think this is me going into the final stage of grief, 'Acceptance'. I have realised that I don't really want Sarah anymore. She showed her usual colours today. Our freind who is 80, came around for a coffee while walking the dog. He asked me whether I wanted to go to the pub with him. I said I would ask Sarah if I could go down for a couple. Sarah had been on the treadmill and we saw her when we came down the stairs. I mentioned that Bryan had asked if I wanted to go to the pub for an hour and if it was OK. She flew into a strop 'Justine asked me to go to the pub but I turned her down because you were cooking a curry for us!' She hadn't mentioned she was invited by Justine and normally, as she's going out of the door she says she's going for a drink with whoever and that's that. It was 3pm and I still made the curry with the girls helping and went to the pub, but Bryan had already decide to have a beer at home with Shirley. He invited me to stay for one but I only had an hour so I politely declined. When I got home Sarah asked if I had gone with Bryan and I said he had made other plans and she flew into another strop about me not staying for a drink with them....I can't win! Later she calmed down and came to talk to me outside. We chatted for awhile and I asked her whether she would be better off selling the big house and buying something smaller and cheaper down the road. This was not a good idea... I don't want her to be broke when we divvy things up and she can't look after this property on a 1/2 acre on her own. When we bought this house it was a 110 sqm/1200sq feet house with a double garage. Over 10 years of work and investment we have done many things including lining the garage and that is now my son's room, more that doubling the size of the house, building a 75sgm/800sqf shed with an office to run our business. I have done a lot of work including painting, building decks etc. I think you get the picture. It was to be our forever home. A place to bring up the kids and run our businesses that we had both put so much into. We have 10 years of memories here. To walk away and let her bring her new man into MY house would be devastating...... He doesn't have a clue about the history of this place.... so in addition to wanting her to reduce her asset value and get some money to work with I have that thought.
Things just got real on the business sale too as we have just listed with a broker and we had a conference call with interested buyers. They are really keen to make an offer and are coming down to see us on Monday. When the bueiness sells we will have to seperate everything out...bank accounts, property, money etc. Sarah was very excited by the potential but I felt flat....that would be the end.....I know it's coming but I don't have to be happy about it do I? Thanks for reading x
