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When your marriage of 18 years is over and you find out your wife with whom you still share a house and business has a boyfriend...
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Jacefrehley · 56-60, M
I took the girls to the river to have s blast in their new quad bike. I just watched them loving it. Somer is 10 and more confident on it. She was doing power slides and she went on the big track when all the big bikes had gone. Alex is 8 and quite timid but loved it. She was fizzing at the bungs as we say in NZ. They want to go there every weekend...I love them so much. They are the beauty in our relationship.
Sarah and I had a couple of bottles of wine. I found out more about her meetings with nipple ring. I know the motel they stayed in in Tauranga. I know the first time they had sex was after the concert the following night. They have only done it twice....I don't think it was that good.
I also know she is hook line and sinker in love with this dude. She's going over to the uk for a holiday with him in August. She has convinced herself he is awesome and it won't be an issue.i don't know how they will work it when he comes over here as his contract is in Tauranga, 3.5hrs drive away. I don't like it. It's too soon for her and feels like a rebound. She is seeing him through rose tinted glasses. I found out he has spoken to Somer....a week ago. I asked her what she thought of him. She said he was weird......
Sarah had an anxiety attack and we hugged for ages. She sobbed and could hardly breath. She told me she loved him but it's hard for her. I don't think she has got over me properly. How can you find true love in that state of mind?
I went to see the vendor of the house I want in the pm. We shook hands on a price. I should feel elated as its perfect for us. Rural views and right next to the school. Kids have their own rooms. Big garage. I should be elated but it feels flat...
I'm still in love with her and told her. I said if we got back together in a year we could keep my new house as a rental. I'm going to counselling to make myself a better person for her, for the next lady in my life....god knows when that will be. I can't say I'm ready or think I ever will be. I've got to improve and move forward. I'm messaging her best friend a lot. She doesn't like the new man and thinks Sarah has changed. I don't like to involve Justine in all this because she has her own issues but I need to speak to someone who is her confident. Justine was the one who told Sarah to go to the UK to see if he is right for her. She also told her to tell me about him.
Is this a flash in the pan? Could he really be so perfect, as perfect as I am imperfect...what's wrong with ME.....the father of her children, her business partner and drinking buddy, we've crammed so much into our 18 years. How can a woman who has been faithful and loyal flick a switch and move on?
She says she'll never go back with me.....NEVER!!!! It's so terminal. I said never say never..... Could we patch things up further down the track? Or will we go through the grief and wake up one day happy in our new lives? God this is hard. I wish I was a dog...they have simple easy carefree lives and love every minute of them.