Why do an lot of women think they shouldnt have to provide for themsleves but claim to want to be equal to men?
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PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
I would accept not being equal in return for being provided for but the situation needs to be right for that to happen.
1) He treats me with respect, values and considers my opinion even if he doesn't choose my way after he weighs up all the options.
2)He doesn't harm me, either physically or emotionally and all decisions he makes are proven to be in mine and the families best interests. That way I know I can trust him. I think it's a winning situation with less stress and arguments. I've known some married people to argue about what kind of yogurts to buy which is beyond stupid.
1) He treats me with respect, values and considers my opinion even if he doesn't choose my way after he weighs up all the options.
2)He doesn't harm me, either physically or emotionally and all decisions he makes are proven to be in mine and the families best interests. That way I know I can trust him. I think it's a winning situation with less stress and arguments. I've known some married people to argue about what kind of yogurts to buy which is beyond stupid.
bijouxbroussard · F
@PatientlyWaiting25 Which aspects of your equality would you be willing to give up ? Bodily autonomy ? The right to drive ? The ability to make basic decisions about your comings and goings ? The right to make decisions about your children ? Many of these rights have been hard-won, and people take them for granted because they don’t know they haven’t always been guaranteed (and in some places they still aren’t). 🙁
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
@bijouxbroussard I know the history of women's liberation and the hard and often tragic fight that has been won for us but the right to choose also includes the right to choose an alternative lifestyle if it feels right and suits me. If you suggest removing my right to choose such a lifestyle, then do I really have liberation or only liberstion that feminists deem acceptable? Remember I said my man is treating me with respect, valuing my opinion and not harming me physically or emotionally. Plenty of women choose a DD or CNC life style and have happy lives.
bijouxbroussard · F
@PatientlyWaiting25 Yes, I’m aware that some women enjoy relationships where they’re getting their behinds kicked. 🥺
I admit I don’t understand it—and not just from a feminist perspective (incidentally, there are feminists involved in S&M, but it tends to be a sexual thing rather than an ongoing lifestyle). I have one friend in particular, a feminist who was a dominatrice for awhile.
As for DD, the women involved in that, certainly do have that right as adults.
I just hate when they have kids who grow up seeing Daddy beating Mommy—"but it’s consensual". They may be "happy” but it’s problematic for children in terms of mental health, especially when they go on to think beating or being beaten by their partners is normal and healthy.
I admit I don’t understand it—and not just from a feminist perspective (incidentally, there are feminists involved in S&M, but it tends to be a sexual thing rather than an ongoing lifestyle). I have one friend in particular, a feminist who was a dominatrice for awhile.
As for DD, the women involved in that, certainly do have that right as adults.
I just hate when they have kids who grow up seeing Daddy beating Mommy—"but it’s consensual". They may be "happy” but it’s problematic for children in terms of mental health, especially when they go on to think beating or being beaten by their partners is normal and healthy.
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bijouxbroussard · F
@PatientlyWaiting25 There’s another misconception about feminists, at least myself and the ones I know; that we don’t like men.
We do—at least the ones who like and respect women as people. I grew up with a brother, father, uncles cousins and friends who were allies to me and my sisters, who encouraged us. They weren’t threatened by our accomplishments.
And I witnessed a marriage where I saw trust and love (and kindness) that was a partnership of equals; it lasted 66 years and taught us what was possible. I’m a widow now, but I was also very happily married. My middle sister still is.
We do—at least the ones who like and respect women as people. I grew up with a brother, father, uncles cousins and friends who were allies to me and my sisters, who encouraged us. They weren’t threatened by our accomplishments.
And I witnessed a marriage where I saw trust and love (and kindness) that was a partnership of equals; it lasted 66 years and taught us what was possible. I’m a widow now, but I was also very happily married. My middle sister still is.