Is it wrong to call women "Sweetheart" on the phone?

I work as a telephone agent. My last caller insisted on calling me "sweetheart" during the call. He was an older gentleman. I get this from time to time, especially from older men in the American South. When guys talk like that, I feel a mix of feelings as a woman, both valued but also patronized.

Do you think it's good or bad when men talk to women this way? Why do you think so?

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Bleak · 36-40, F

You can just interrupt in between

My pardon sir, I am no one’s sweetheart. Yes you heard me right. No one’s.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@Bleak I don't think it got to that level of discomfort. But that's a great idea to keep in my back pocket. Thank you.

strait46 · 46-50, M

@Bleak THAT would be rude telling someone how to talk. same as you don't want people telling you what to do. don't do to others.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@strait46 If someone's speech pushes over the line to become rude themselves, it is not wrong to push back and let them know. I wouldn't be so aggressive about it, particularly since I'm in sales.

And now that I'm re-reading @Bleak 's comment... "No one's?" Was that an underhanded jab? I mean... it happens to be true. But still. I could be someone's sweetheart. You know, theoretically. In some bizarro world.🤣