Is it wrong to call women "Sweetheart" on the phone?

I work as a telephone agent. My last caller insisted on calling me "sweetheart" during the call. He was an older gentleman. I get this from time to time, especially from older men in the American South. When guys talk like that, I feel a mix of feelings as a woman, both valued but also patronized.

Do you think it's good or bad when men talk to women this way? Why do you think so?

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TexChik · F

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ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@TexChik The first place I ever heard this song was when Jimmy and Jerry Gourd sang it on VeggieTales. 😆

I'm actually curious about your opinion in particular though. I think this guy was from North Carolina, if I remember right. Definitely some cultural differences from Texas, but even more with Wisconsin. Do you think I am overreacting and it's probably not that big a deal? Or would it annoy you too?

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@TexChik This song WILL be stuck in my head for the rest of they day now.

TexChik · F

@ShadowSister it’s very patronizing to folks not from the Deep South, but if he’s an older gentleman , it wasn’t intended to be .

TexChik · F

@ShadowSister 😂🤷🏻‍♀️😉

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@TexChik I think you're right on both counts.