Why are women objectified more than men ? Even by other women ?

On EP, a guy was "complaining” that women’s bodies are more fetishized than men’s, and he thought it was unfair. It kind of [b]is[/b], but not necessarily in the way he meant.

Women’s bodies are valued as things, first and foremost. Things to display, things to barter. Even other women buy into it. That’s probably why so many people think they have the right, even the imperative to legislate women’s reproductive choices.

Rant over.

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Ynotisay · M

I think the "women buy in to it" part is really important. It's a two way street.

When I was about 16 I was listening to a radio show with two women discussing objectification. Something I've never been on board with. Both from a personal perspective as well as the women who buy in to it and, in essence, objectify themselves. I called in to the show and I'm sure they took the call because they wanted to appease a kid. Or maybe "teach" me. And the crux of my question was, "Do you dress up, wear makeup, and do everything you can to look good and, if so, why?" And I remember them going from patronizing to flummoxed pretty quickly. Because there really isn't a way to answer that question without it coming back to desiring positive attention or feedback from others based solely on physical looks.

Is it a society thing? Sure. I think it's probably an animal thing too. We're hardwired for it. The bird with the prettiest feathers gets to breed. But it's the hypocrisy around the issue that I have a hard time with. "I do it for myself" doesn't quite fly with me. Because the "self" is looking for that feedback. Now in no way does that mean a woman can't wear what she wants. Or be in actual danger with the "she was asking for" bullshit. That comes from the weakest, most insecure men out there. But I do see a lot hypocrisy around the issue.

All I know is that when I cross paths with women obviously seeking attention, where their being is seemingly wrapped in to their looks, I won't give it to them. There's other things that are SO much more important. Things that I personally feel should be acknowledged and encouraged way before physical beauty. And that holds true for women who objectify men.