I Am a Feminist

@CharlieZ even when I am personally interested an it's unrequited I'd rather be friends personally which is one of the reasons it's s frustrating to confess only to get ghosted which I can somewhat empathize with given our sexes propensity to lash out at women who reject their advances because men have been socialized in our society for some bizarre reason to view themselves as ENTITLED to a woman so whenever one DOES reject them they respond either violently or aggressively but I on't like being lumped in with other people with a penis at all because so many of you have done so many shitty things I'm already on record with having disowned my loyalty to my own sex and admitted i'm fighting for the opposing team at this point.

IT's not YOU personally so don't take it as such but I've known so many men to be awfully deplorable that it makes me want to go out of my way to identify as female out of a sense of moral disgust for my own sex.

It's not all of you who make me feel this way you cannot generalize about any group but there are enough of you who are seriously problematic that it is enough to make me flee in horror and consider all the comparisons to a girl to be an honor rather than the insult they intend their slurs to be.

I am NOT other people who happen to possess penis! I Don't know how thoroughly I have to dig myself into the GRAVE With my own sex before women at large will realize it and realize I chose to be one of them at great personal sacrifice to myself.

I have done everything within my power to call out the behavior I find so reprehensible and distance myself from it.

@PDXNative1986 I trully understand you.

Regarding my personal limited experience, I have women as good dear friends, some of them for the last 40 to 50 years!

Only once in my life, a friend (also a colleague and my bussines partner) become my...GF...for some years.
And even that took me by surprise (not to her) when happened.

My friends are my friends, not my sex "prospects".

@CharlieZ No shit. Women are people too. I don't know why saying such things makes me sound like a dangerous radical.

But seriously it's like some people have not come around to realizing it.

It's just orz....
I mean holy shit?

most of my friends are female. Is it any surprise I was at one point interested in some of them?

it's just that even though society basically taught us to view being their friend as failure to hit the goal there are so many problems with that idea

Do you really think being vetted by so many women who talk to me on daily basis pretty much somehow invalidates me and makes it HARDER for me to get a girlfriend?

let's consider the reality that while men are a afraid women will laugh at them women are afraid men will kill them.

And yet so many of them have chosen to be friends with me...

They are not concerned / I / will kill or hurt them.

the fact that I've been attracted to some of my friends and chosen to be close to them in spite of that idea shows i'm in control of my emotions and can keep it in my pants when I need to.

@PDXNative1986 Again, I think I understand you well.
Oppression is shit. Prejudice is shit.
Violence against women is still a sick social endemia.
I have three now grown up daughters and, since kids, I teached them martial arts.
And to demmand respect for them as valuable strong human beings, as they are.

But not all men are the same.
Women are my peers, as should be.

@CharlieZ my momma does not believe in violence at all so she never had me taught how to defend myself when I was a kid.

She should have. if i had punched out one of the kids bullying me it would have all stopped. Sure I'd get in trouble in school but never again would the harrass me the way they did.

instead that shit went on for years and years and I still have to deal with echos of it today.

We share a dislike of violence but where as I look down on it and HATE it when it's against women I dislike the rest of it and basically view some of it as a necessary evil.

Like when somebody is bound and determined to make the american people ourselves the enemy and pretend we are somehow all equally responsible for what our government has done because it's a democracy right? Yet why is it that the public has little influence over foreign policy?

If I had real power the CIA would have left Salvador Allende alone and would have instead killed Augusto Pinochet and the forces AGAINST the revolution in Chile.

Or at least since I was born far after such problems apologized and prosecuted both Augusto Pinochet and henry kissinger for war crimes. My sentiments regarding foreigners is send harry kissinger to the hague.

Yet I have NO real impact over what my government does and as a LIFELONG democrat I can tell you it makes NO DIFFERENCE which party you vote BOTH hands of the duopoly believe america is "Special" and doesn't or shouldn't have to play by the rules of other nations.

I may favor the Democrats but that's because I believe they do a better job of looking out for people like me.

Not because I agree with them on foreign policy. IMHO american exceptionalism 1. Evil 2. Pure delusion.

it's a vile ideology that has to die. So basically what I'm saying Is that I am an native of oregon and I don't believe the american people ourselves that is those of us who are too poor to pay somebody to lobby on our behalf have any real influence over what the government does or does not do overseas.

so when somebody like bid laden blows up the Twin towers because our government stationed troops in what they think of as "the holy land"

I have a problem with it and basically sense he demanded to threaten us directly in spite of our complete powerlessness over our government he had to go and I will not speak out against us killing him the way that Obama's white house did. He was a threat. He had to be dealt with.

but as to my former point: I am vulnerable to women in a very physical way, most of the women I've dated over the years could have wiped the floor with me in a fight.

@PDXNative1986 I trend to sympathize with your political views.
But I´m not an US citizen and I don´t live there.

Argentina had it´s own history of dictatorships.
The last one, 1976-1983, kidnaped, tortured and murdered one of each thousand people of our population of that years.
But people ressited and they were finally defeated.

@CharlieZ I am a big believer in democracy because even though the framers feared the passions of the mob who will suffer the most if the mob makes bad choices under a purely democratic system but for the mob itself? with great power comes responsibility and obviously if I got my way and america's republic became more democratic in nature I realize that the responsibility would rest with me and any choices I made I would have to live with.

and though I am aware that the majority not to many years ago even in a liberal place like california tried to ban gays from getting married.

I just think that california is learning the hard way about the perils of democracy and how the popular will can go so horribly wrong... about shit like prop 13 via ballot measures that those anti tax zealots are a serious problem and you should not side with them.

Consider the reality that they voted in more amendments raising their own taxes because they realized eventually the government WAS providing services they viewed as necessary and when you take their money away you take the service away as well. so cali is paying for prop 13 with struggling schools etc.

The real mistake of prop 13 was not specifying that it did not apply to taxes on businesses above a reasonable size. Small businesses should be shielded but the giants like Walmart should be paying their fair share to property taxes which are FAR too low on gigantic corporations in california now due to prop 13.

As A supporter of the Californian Democratic party all I would want the other's to know is that I am a Small d democracy advocate not so much necessary a partisan for the party and what the Supermajority should do with prop 13 is amend it so that you no longer require a large majority in the legislature to raise property taxes on the but EVERYONE else you do.

And to be clear small business owners should side with me in this fight because 1. I don't want to raise your taxes. 2. It's in both of our interest that the labor pool be as educated as possible.