I Am a Feminist

The way that some self described "nice guys" complain about the friend zone bothers me because I used to feel that way but I began to reflect on sentiments and a few things came to my consciousness.

I have legitimately presided over a period in which the women I have been interested in have personally confessed to having very poor choice in men and not really knowing how to pick them.

I have been frightened out of a sound sleep when one of these assholes smashed the windows on my neighbors jeep and though I had NO interest in her it left me with a vivid memory.

I am aware that quiet a few otherwise decent women are challenged in the romantic department in terms of being able to profile a "Good man." but while I was bitter in the past I began to realize my PERSONAL ROMANTIC SATISFACTION is Nowhere NEAR as important as HER SAFETY

I don't complain about the so called "friend zone." At all anymore. Some of these so called "Nice guys." look at the abusers these women pick as partners as karma for their poor choices and that's not at all how I see it.

I honestly wish everyone I was interested in for all those years the best and I know we were never a couple for quiet a few of them but I hope they've all found somebody decent.

I'm so tired of holding somebodies hand while they abuse themselves by proxy. I use to feel bitter but in the later years my sense of empathy for women's struggles drove me to become increasingly radical feminist.

I blame the men who abused my chosen during whatever period of time I was interested in them FOR ABUSING THEM instead of feeling bitter and resentful that she didn't pick me.

I wish these guys would get over themselves realize they are not entitled to jack diddly shit from women even if they're nice to them and they should concern themselves far more profoundly with her safety than getting their dicks wet or being "Happily taken"

and seriously if you would wish the abuse on them because they didn't pick you maybe just maybe you're not so nice after all.

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CharlieZ · 70-79, M

I don't complain about the so called "friend zone".
I choose to never be there.
If what I have with a woman is genuine friendship, is not a "friend zone".
And I would never be friend with a woman who keeps orbiters as open choices for her.
Moreover, I would rather put my nuts in a hydraulic press than to date her.

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PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@CharlieZ my momma does not believe in violence at all so she never had me taught how to defend myself when I was a kid.

She should have. if i had punched out one of the kids bullying me it would have all stopped. Sure I'd get in trouble in school but never again would the harrass me the way they did.

instead that shit went on for years and years and I still have to deal with echos of it today.

We share a dislike of violence but where as I look down on it and HATE it when it's against women I dislike the rest of it and basically view some of it as a necessary evil.

Like when somebody is bound and determined to make the american people ourselves the enemy and pretend we are somehow all equally responsible for what our government has done because it's a democracy right? Yet why is it that the public has little influence over foreign policy?

If I had real power the CIA would have left Salvador Allende alone and would have instead killed Augusto Pinochet and the forces AGAINST the revolution in Chile.

Or at least since I was born far after such problems apologized and prosecuted both Augusto Pinochet and henry kissinger for war crimes. My sentiments regarding foreigners is send harry kissinger to the hague.

Yet I have NO real impact over what my government does and as a LIFELONG democrat I can tell you it makes NO DIFFERENCE which party you vote BOTH hands of the duopoly believe america is "Special" and doesn't or shouldn't have to play by the rules of other nations.

I may favor the Democrats but that's because I believe they do a better job of looking out for people like me.

Not because I agree with them on foreign policy. IMHO american exceptionalism 1. Evil 2. Pure delusion.

it's a vile ideology that has to die. So basically what I'm saying Is that I am an native of oregon and I don't believe the american people ourselves that is those of us who are too poor to pay somebody to lobby on our behalf have any real influence over what the government does or does not do overseas.

so when somebody like bid laden blows up the Twin towers because our government stationed troops in what they think of as "the holy land"

I have a problem with it and basically sense he demanded to threaten us directly in spite of our complete powerlessness over our government he had to go and I will not speak out against us killing him the way that Obama's white house did. He was a threat. He had to be dealt with.

but as to my former point: I am vulnerable to women in a very physical way, most of the women I've dated over the years could have wiped the floor with me in a fight.

CharlieZ · 70-79, M

@PDXNative1986 I trend to sympathize with your political views.
But I´m not an US citizen and I don´t live there.

Argentina had it´s own history of dictatorships.
The last one, 1976-1983, kidnaped, tortured and murdered one of each thousand people of our population of that years.
But people ressited and they were finally defeated.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@CharlieZ I am a big believer in democracy because even though the framers feared the passions of the mob who will suffer the most if the mob makes bad choices under a purely democratic system but for the mob itself? with great power comes responsibility and obviously if I got my way and america's republic became more democratic in nature I realize that the responsibility would rest with me and any choices I made I would have to live with.

and though I am aware that the majority not to many years ago even in a liberal place like california tried to ban gays from getting married.

I just think that california is learning the hard way about the perils of democracy and how the popular will can go so horribly wrong... about shit like prop 13 via ballot measures that those anti tax zealots are a serious problem and you should not side with them.

Consider the reality that they voted in more amendments raising their own taxes because they realized eventually the government WAS providing services they viewed as necessary and when you take their money away you take the service away as well. so cali is paying for prop 13 with struggling schools etc.

The real mistake of prop 13 was not specifying that it did not apply to taxes on businesses above a reasonable size. Small businesses should be shielded but the giants like Walmart should be paying their fair share to property taxes which are FAR too low on gigantic corporations in california now due to prop 13.

As A supporter of the Californian Democratic party all I would want the other's to know is that I am a Small d democracy advocate not so much necessary a partisan for the party and what the Supermajority should do with prop 13 is amend it so that you no longer require a large majority in the legislature to raise property taxes on the but EVERYONE else you do.

And to be clear small business owners should side with me in this fight because 1. I don't want to raise your taxes. 2. It's in both of our interest that the labor pool be as educated as possible.

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