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Why do people get annoyed when people agree with them too much?

My dad gets very irritated when I agree with everything even some things I don't agree with. He is like, "DON'T just agree with me to make me feel better. Quit agreeing with me!"
I always have that stuck in my head. My dad always says things that ends up being stuck in our heads.

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DancingStarGoddess ·

because your agreement is false and seems like you're merely placating them that's why. it's not "genuine" it's pretty much lying for the sake of being "nice." if you disagree, there ARE ways to say so without being nasty or rude. but to merely agree just because seems almost patronizing.

i've had people here argue with me for agreeing with them, moreso because of lack of comprehension of what i've said, and because tone is a thing poorly gauged online. but what you're doing isn't helping. i see why your father is frustrated, and i agree with him.

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@DancingStarGoddess: People yell and scream at you for that? My dad shouldn't ever so be frustrated.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@MissNiceGirl: oh yes! quite often people seem bothered, even when i tell them exactly what and why i agree lol. and i'm genuinely agreeing with them. it's just they don't seem to care for it lol

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@DancingStarGoddess: They are fools. Even my own mother said, "Lila (me) I'm getting irritated with you about this. If there is something you DONT agree on, just tell us. Don't lie to make us feel better that's why your boyfriend left you. You're not honest and you're too nice. Stop it. You're going to make people not wanting to go out with you."
My mom shocked me when she told me that.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@MissNiceGirl: she's not wrong, to go through life "pretending" everything is wonderful can lead to SO many dangers,and being less than honest does have a way of building a rep and following you. people will stop wanting to deal with you because they don't feel you will be forthcoming with your true feelings. believe it or not some DO want genuine honesty and your opinions. if you don't like things, speak up aboutit, and let them know why. doesn't mean you have to be mean, just that you need to be honest and tactful.

SW-User

@DancingStarGoddess: I don´t agree.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@BansheeGirl: ok, that's perfectly fine

SW-User

@DancingStarGoddess: Sorry. I just had to say it. All that you said was so right. I´m worse than MissNiceGirl.🤤

DancingStarGoddess ·

@BansheeGirl: nono it's ok! i wasn't upset at all, haha

SW-User

@DancingStarGoddess: I just had to disagree.

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@BansheeGirl: That's your opinion and I respect that

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@DancingStarGoddess: My mom didn't have to be so blunt with me.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@MissNiceGirl: yes, unfortunately she actually did. because it's the only way you would listen or learn,she had to be direct and not sugar coat things. she wasn't mean, and she's honestly saving you a lot of trouble. you have no idea the things the world and the peopel of it cana nd will do, simply because you didn't say "no"

SW-User

@MissNiceGirl: So here comes the mom. UUhhhh

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@BansheeGirl: I think my mom was too harsh with me

SW-User

@MissNiceGirl: Come on. Moms are moms. I thought you were coming up with a hairbrush or something. Just keep the distance and you will be fine.

MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F

@BansheeGirl: but look at my current question I just posted