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Is this really annoying or am I being a little mean here?

I go to Indian restaurants with my colleagues where food is shared, so not separate meals. My colleague keeps putting food in my plate and insists on me to try certain things, and this attitude just gets on my nerves, because it becomes too much insisting and I am like just want to eat quietly and if I want something I will try it.... I realise it is a caring attitude but it can get too annoying but it makes me feel mean later on!

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

You should stop thinking of yourself mate, try to be something you aren't for a while, you'll enjoy it instead of creating a stupid awkward situation like that...

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

I mean it takes two to create an awkward situation

annamarie65 · 56-60, F

she has every right to think of herself...its impolite to put food on someone elses plate if they did not ask you to do so

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@Martin Huh, what?

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@annamarie65: sometimes we just got to stop trying to prove our every right... no matter what she tells him, it'll become a bad situation around the table, there is no way to win, unless she gives in and actually tries the food.

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@MartinTheFirst: I always give in and eat, but I don't like it when people insist too much on me to do something and I eat slowly and not much, so this is how I function, I don't mind caring but this is not how I eat so it gets annoying

annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@MartinTheFirst: no it doesnt....it becomes an awkward situation when someone behaves differently from what the other person expects. and to push themselves onto someone else like that is impolite, inconsiderate and rude in my opinion. i am a professional chef, i would never act in such a manner, no matter how badly i want someone to try all of my food. it may be ok in their country or family but this young lady is not from their country or their family so they should know not to be overbearing like that

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@UnhatchedEgg: I understand that, it's a tough position, but telling him will not prove successful... Unless you don't mind a bit of tender situations like that, of course.

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@annamarie65: Thank you! I do think it is a thing in the family which is why he behaves as such!

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@annamarie65: I don't care about what he should do, people aren't perfect. I care about what the situation will get like if she were to tell him, because that's everything that matters in a situation like that.

annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@UnhatchedEgg: but that doesnt make it right, even if it is done in his family...

annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@MartinTheFirst: so you are saying she should just accept the behaviour even tho it bothers her...i totally disagree...thats a good way to make working together more inhospitable and possibly bearing hard feelings towards each other. if she had gone to his country or his home, thats another story, but in a restaurant, in this country, its just impolite.

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@annamarie65: I agree with you! It is still an annoying habit!

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@annamarie65: Yeah she should, tbh.