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Is this really annoying or am I being a little mean here?

I go to Indian restaurants with my colleagues where food is shared, so not separate meals. My colleague keeps putting food in my plate and insists on me to try certain things, and this attitude just gets on my nerves, because it becomes too much insisting and I am like just want to eat quietly and if I want something I will try it.... I realise it is a caring attitude but it can get too annoying but it makes me feel mean later on!

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Fernie · F

something tells me you have not expressed these feelings to the person

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

Well yeah, because I realise it is a caring attitude not something bad I should get upset with someone over, but it still annoys me

Fernie · F

@UnhatchedEgg: No. You have your meal. about to enjoy your meal and someone puts something on your dish you do not want...repeatedly? It is totally reasonable for you to gently ask this person to stop doing that...OR just keep being annoyed and let it continue. If you don't stop it, you can't complain...and you won't have as good a meal as you should

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@Fernie: I am an angry person by nature so I think my annoyance shows naturally I am very bad at hiding my resentment of something which is why I feel bad later because I feel it was mean of me to act as such but I think I may have the right after reading some of the comments here

Fernie · F

@UnhatchedEgg: I have to say this...for YOU...that is a cowardly, passive aggressive, way to deal with it. Maybe some of your anger is caused by you not being able to speak any unpleasant truth...therefore it just stays there.Say what has to be said to that person....you can then let it go

UnhatchedEgg · 31-35, F

@Fernie: I may act passive aggressive sometimes, not because I am a coward, I do as such only in situations when I don't want to hurt someone or when it is a close friend. If someone has really done me wrong, I am actually quite aggressive usually and not passive at all

Fernie · F

@UnhatchedEgg: Sorry then. This is a subject that is kind of a thing with me. I don't understand why people allow others to have so much control...they can do whatever they please and some people won't tell them to please stop, even though they really WANT them to stop, don't want to hurt their feelings, etc. .. so they continue to annoy...makes no sense to me...but that's just me