Whats the worst thing you did as a people pleaser to please people? or if you are not what is the worst thing you asked a people pleaser to do?

@nonsensiclesnail well as a people pleaser i often do things i woudln't do but since its to make someone happy i'll go over my own limits which i shouldn't but did!

@popmol As a fellow people pleaser, Ive lived a life I rather hate just o make sure everyone else is ok and happy. So this is difficult to answer. Do you know I rarely ever have fun? I rarely, if ever, actually enjoy my day. Life is hard. Harder when you forget you matter because if you matter someone else will make your life hell because they dont matter enough to you.
Yay life!

@nonsensiclesnail i know i do the same thing currently!
but i've been trained from birth. my father and sister when annoyed would yell often at me when i was smiling or laughing.
whenever i was doing something its never good or good enough.
now i can't even accept a compliment and if i do something like cooking for others or doing for something i need to ask if it was good multiple times. but then i still don't believe it! but even then if someone says something negative it washes all of it away!

@popmol I can 1000% relate. I’m sorry. Living this way is garbage. However, knowing what is true and living that truth are very different things.

@nonsensiclesnail well yeah i know all my issues i have discussed them so often so at this point i could fix them if it were that easy.
its so ingrained i can't fix it.

@popmol have more faith in you. The brain is powerful. As long as you want it and believe it, you can overcome their asshoolery.

@nonsensiclesnail issue is my self hatred is so inmense, even when i'm over my suicide attempts from my depression i still want to die just because i hate myself.
and as long as some part of me doesn't want to heal because it hates me i don't think i can ever fix myself unless i overcome that