When you're in second grade, you're a little kid. Not every conversation about you needs to involve you. For a teacher to ask the parent or another teacher for advice to deal with a problem, behavior, learning disability, etc, is not something that child needs to be there for. It's an adult conversation that just happens to be about the child. "She never stays in her seat/She never applies herself/She doesn't listen to anything I say/ are issues that will only make the child feel worse if brought up to them. Potential medical issues, issues adults have with other parents that make them question if the child should be around them, things the kid is bad at and needs to work on- there are lots of things that adults need to discuss about kids that will simply make the kid feel bad about themselves if said in front of them. Youre fairly sensitive now and you are an adult- to critique you as a child, even with constructive criticism, likely would have just led to more sensitivity, or feeling attacked/targeted. What you can say to an adult vs a child is obviously different. You worked with kids, so you should be familiar with adult conversations discussed away from kids simply because it doesnt need to be said to them
