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@NickiHijab I can't help but notice how one of her eyes blinks slower than the other 👀

@NickiHijab Everyone is "that way" for a reason. Doesn't mean everyone can and should be accepted or forgiven, but there's always a cause beyond their behaviour.

Also like, you're the best person on here, no notes. Keep slaying.

@ChiefWalksWith40oz maybe she was trying to wink. We'll never know

@CountScrofula what is there to do with shitty people or rather people who do shitty things but to understand them?
Not to find ways to forgive them. Just to know why.
Or maybe my brains just inclined that way.

Also, you're a perceptive person whose great at giving advice.

@NickiHijab Aw, thanks. And like... understanding the shitty people is the best way to heal. One of the weirdest things I found with the union work is that by providing real community and inclusion, racist Trump supporters would show up on a picket line with recent immigrants and trans people in a united cause and even do shit like respect pronouns. That was kind of lightning in a bottle, but fuck it was cool to see.

@NickiHijab i feel dat homie. Stay peepin out here 🙏 Shit we all different but we all thinkin. It's understanding n shit

@CountScrofula I worked with a inclusive leadership, coaching psychologist who didn't like diversity and inclusion training in work places because a lot of studies found that people double down on their biases when brought to the surface through deception.
The training advertises learning about diversity but has negative emotions surfacing in people that they're not ready to face in a setting where they often feel like they have to show their best.
The more productive alternative was exposure to the group/demographics they had biases towards but whether that's feasible, I don't know.
At least it teaches you how to conduct yourself in a personal setting, within reason of course.

@NickiHijab I completely agree with that. Rule 1, don't insult anyone's intelligence. The best diversity training out there is not going to succeed in a workplace where the bosses are all straight white men and everyone who is not is lower-ranked. People will immediately see that "Oh it's diversity for me and not for thee" and reject the training.

This is beyond backfire effect or any other form of psychological resistance to the training.

Like my employer has a gigantic equity, diversity, inclusion initiative, is pushing unconscious bias training on everyone, and we all know it is *utter* bullshit.

It's a cheat. These are issues of structure and culture, not the unrelated perception of a bunch of individuals.