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Have you ever started to lose friends after you started to find happiness?

I've noticed that in the recent months where I've been happier and the happiest I've been in a long time. The people around me seem to be contacting me less and less.
Maybe I'm just being weird but one friend in particular I used to speak with every day and I've had a text message 3 days ago to say they couldn't talk and that's it!

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

There are some people who only want to talk about negative things in their life such as their job…when they want to have lunch they’ll sit there and complain the whole time and they get damned jealous when good things happen to you….in fact when you talk about it (not bragging just telling) they’ll get a look on their face and change the subject. That crap gets old in a hurry.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti I agree.
I remember years ago I used to get really annoyed at my friends for cutting me out when they got happy and didn't used to ask how I was.
I was never depressed when I had friends, that came later.
I don't think I've been selfish I've tried to check in and make sure they're OK I guess they're sick of hearing the joy in my voice.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Mellowgirl One of my work friends would call me up to complain about her work problems after we retired. One phone call was over 2 hours long. I retired the first day I could and she was working 2 jobs and making payments on a Mercedes (one job alone to pay the payment, insurance & other expenses). She could brag about her cars to me but damn if I said anything good happened to me that she didn’t have. I never bought a luxury car to finance payments for years either.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti Yea there used to be a woman like that. I quit working at this god awful place and she'd call me every 6weeks or so. I thought she was being a friend but actually she was just using me to vent to.
Like you mentioned 2 hours of a rant. And asking my opinion on various people I just said the bare minimum.
The people that worked there were sneaky and I didn't want to get myself caught up In anymore drama.
She suggested we should meet up but I've been "busy".

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Mellowgirl I think the only reason this one hasn’t called me up to have lunch in over 3 years is because I told her something good that happened and the look on her face was that of being angry about it. I’m at the age that if someone can’t be happy when something good happens to me then I don’t care if they get mad. My sister had the same look on her face and she’s a narcissist.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti agreed what a spiteful person

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Mellowgirl Spiteful is right. My sister has said all kinds of bad stuff about me (lies) despite me helping her for over a year. I finally got tired of her attitude and stopped helping her. She has posted some of those lies on Facebook recently and it’s been over 6 years since I’ve even talked to her.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti I avoid Facebook and all those social media pages for friends and family...business yes... Art yes.... That's it.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Mellowgirl I don’t interact with them. I like the humor pages & some other ones. I do monitor what my sister posts because she tends to slander individuals and businesses. She was calling her doctors quacks a couple weeks ago after having an angiogram. It came back OK and she had been complaining of being short of breath if she walked. So call the doctor a quack for recommending the test eh?

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti hopefully they saw that...