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How do I get my autistic classmate to understand that I don’t wanna be friends with her?

In my history class last year’s school year, there’s this classmate we had and she is on something called autism. I’ve heard something about that but I don’t know about really well. Anyway she seems like a really sweet girl but she’s frankly very annoying. She’s a teachers pet. A kiss ass. Like also, when she gets to answer wrong she does a fit about it every time. It’s very annoying as she kinda gets away with a lot of things just because she’s “special needs”. I mean what’s so special about her needs? Anyways our teacher paired up together which I was not so happy about that. I begged her to let me switch partners but she said her mind was made up. I still think she set me up on purpose. So we were doing a project together and it was like a three week project. I mean I meant to the very great helper I really appreciate. We exchange numbers so we can keep in contact about a project but then afterwards she wouldn’t stop texting me. I told her that we don’t have to text about the project anymore and we’re done. I may I’ll answer her back but she texts me every single day. It’s been like that since May and I’m frankly annoyed. She started texting me a month after our project was done. She keeps telling people that were friends and we’re not. She would say I’m her best friend. I told her that we’re not best friends and can she stop please and stop texting me 15-20 times a day. She said she was sad but she kept doing it and I’m getting very frustrated with her. I would ignore her text messages and I would end up getting 50 text messages from her. I mean she gave up and started texting me back this week after three weeks. Why doesn’t she get it?? Please help!
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
She obviously considers you a friend. Not gonna be fun to hear but you're being pretty unwelcoming and immature. You'll look back at this later and you'll feel crap about it.

The texting 24/7 is a bit much, she probably doesn't understand certain social graces as she's not as used to it as you might be. Try and be a little understanding, it might be awkward but she has feelings as well. Just say something like "hey I have stuff going on in the day a lot of the time so I can't answer your texts sometimes". It gives you an out and doesn't hurt her feelings.
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@Ryannnnnn How am I being immature? Of course I’m unwelcoming! I don’t want to be friends with her! I’m so sick and tired of people giving autistic people excuses an making people be friends with them! I tried to tell her but she WONT LISTEN TO ME!
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@MissyMoo04 Yeah you're immature.
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@Ryannnnnn man you adults are rude
Insightful1981 · 41-45, M
The best thing to do is have a word with your form tutor. if that fails then your parents need to get in touch with your school to sort it out with the girl and her parents.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
It's not going to be easy, since autists are known to not get social cues and definitely doesn't understand what you want to say.
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@DrSunnyTheSkeptic Are all autistic people like this?
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
@MissyMoo04 Well not exactly, there's a spectrum. Some people you'd never guess they are autistic, others are so far down that they're not communicative, however they often share similar traits, like being unable to read the room, understand idioms, phrases, sarcasm or how their behavior affects others.
familyfunguy · 56-60, M
Be friends with her you oppressive, privileged entitled little neurotypical!

But what she's doing is technically harassment. You could bring up the possibility of a restraining order to her parents and the school.
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@familyfunguy Well school is out so I don’t know what else to do. She hasn’t abused me or anything
familyfunguy · 56-60, M
@MissyMoo04 Sounds like you'll be blocking her number. If she tells people on social media that you guys are friends, that might be a good place to call her out, as there would be a written record of it.
You have to be very direct no honest with her. Hints don’t work. She is probably very lonely but texting you 24/7 is way too much and she needs to understand boundaries. I’m on the autism spectrum myself so you have to be direct with us. If she doesn’t stop, then block her.
Viper · M
She probably lonely :(

And she doesn't want to be lonely...

She wants to fit in... but she can't :(

I know the feeling :(
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@Viper Well that’s not my problem. She’s annoying, texts me so much and all I asked to extend numbers so we can keep up with the project but I told her it’s over with and she doesn’t have to text me anymore. She didn’t listen and she keeps telling people we’re friends. I keep telling her that we’re not friends and stop telling her he goes that. She doesn’t GET IT!
Fluffybull · F
Block her number then
MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F
@Fluffybull I’ll have too.

 
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