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Would you offer someone you don't know your coat at a party if they said they were cold?

My god brothers mother-in-law was opposite to us at the table, sitting under the overhead heater in the beer garden.
And his wife next to me, anyways she said she was a little cold as she had her shoulders exposed.
She had left her jacket in the car.
I had mine in my lap but didn't offer mine.
So her daughter (god brother wife) asked him if he was cold...
He then gave his jacket to his mother in law.

It's not that I couldn't offer, I just didn't because well I don't know her.
Also why be sat somewhere for 2 hours cold when you could return to the car to get your coat!?

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Stark

Eh, that’s not your obligation. If she was cold enough she would just go get hers. Honestly, if she was cold then I probably would be cold too because I’m cold natured. 🤷‍♀️ I would also be concerned that I wouldn’t get it back. This happened with my cousin at a funeral her mom offered to let someone borrow a jacket of hers almost forgot to get it back before leaving. The whole situation is a lot for me. I always bring a jacket with me when I go places because I’m aware I’m a cold natured person. As an adult I feel that’s something you should be prepared for.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Stark 100%
As I mention to Oster here...I kind of felt like it was a test.
It's not a regular group of people that I see.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark People before things. Always. Things can be replaced.

Stark

@FlowersNButterflies again not my obligation. It’s completely fine if you view it that way but I like to hold on to my jacket if I want to.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark Never said it was your obligation. Kindness is self-rewarding. I adore kindness and kind people.

Stark

@FlowersNButterflies Yes, but I’m stating it again because you felt the need to say people before things always and things can always be replaced. I clearly don’t view it that way so I thought you needed me to clarify it for you again considering it’s in my original comment and you still felt the need to comment something going against what I commented. 🤷‍♀️ Just making my statement more clear for you.

Stark

@FlowersNButterflies Also, you can still be kind and have boundaries and not want to give your stuff away. Lol

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark Your statements say a lot about you. And your attempt to put down says even more. We would not be friends. I have standards, and kindness for the sake of kindness is one of them. That you brought up the topic at all appears to me that at some level you knew you were unkind.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark And you can have undeveloped standards, too. Let it rest. I will not be agreeing with your pov.

Stark

@FlowersNButterflies and I’m okay with that.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark I don't believe you. If you were okay with it, you would not have brought up the topic. She is not here to hear your posts and we are. You want absolution for your lack of developed kindness. We can't agree. I value kind people.

Stark

@FlowersNButterflies I’m okay with us disagreeing. (Again clarifying since you don’t seem to follow) You’re clearly not okay with this disagreement because you felt the need to comment your disagreement on my comment and then won’t let it go. 🤷‍♀️ You’re the one that started this not me. My decision will stay the same regardless of your thoughts on it.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

@Stark You have more than one issue.