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Double standard, much?

My friend and I were at a bar and a group of men started hitting on her and talking dirty to her, I told her we could go if she wanted but she said it was fine. She started talking dirty to them back and they ended up getting all butthurt and didn’t want anything to do with her anymore, which upset my friend.

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SW-User

Men aren't looking to compete with women. If the dirty talk was unwanted and she gave back what she got, good riddance. However if she was into it and went into competitive mode, well that kind of ruins it.

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User she thought it would turn em on even more.

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 By behaving like a man?

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User by accepting their request to fuck her...

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 Ok. Then I'm assuming the advances, lewd as it sounds, were welcome, still, they approach you because you're a woman, not a man, soon as you start behaving like a man they bounce.

Imaging if a woman twerked to get the attention of a dude only for the guy to out twerk her. That's not masculine at all and I imagine a major turn off.

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User she lets people know what she wants, that's just how she is.

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 That's ok if she's forward that way but this is not a double standard situation. It's a general preference situation. Generally men don't like women that behave as men. If they wanted a sparring partner to cuss with they'd do it with their male buddies.

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User Doesn't make much sense to me, they dish it out but can't take it.

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 It's not about not being able to take it. It's simply unattractive. Like I said, if the attention was unwanted then they got what they deserved, but if your friend was interested, then her reaction simply turned them off.

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User Doesn't make a bit of sense to me.

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 Ok. Men find femininity in woman attractive as women find masculinity in men attractive. If you twerk for me to get my attention, that's not a call for me to try and out twerk YOU. As a matter of fact you'd find it suspect that I had mastered such a feminine dance beyond your own capabilities as a woman. Does that mean I can't join in? Of course not, but I'd need to approach or dance with you as a man, not as a woman and certainly not as a competitor. I don't know why women think men would find masculine traits attractive.

We don't hang with you so you can be one of the guys, we already have guy friends.

WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F

@SW-User I don't give a damn if you're masculine or not! Your way is clearly not how everyone feels.

SW-User

@WendyLopez43 Of course thats not how everyone feels, everyone has a different percpective but holly hell, majority of the comments didn't even understand your friend was into it so their contribution starts of on the wrong g foot to begin with.