Do you have a good self esteem?
I have noticed that I tend to perceive myself as way less than what others perceive me as. Any tips to help remedy that?
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There are loads and loads of resources out there.. and many suggestions.. Too many to cover here but basically evaluating more realistically your skills and good points.
One way you could do that is to either ask or remember all the positive things people have said to you.. and write them down.. This in itself can help you see yourself more clearly - we are all our own worst critic and its not necessary, realistic or helpful. You can also refer to the list when you find yourself being harsh to yourself.
Another thing you can do.. is.. think how you would treat a loved one if they were struggling.. and use those same kindnesses to yourself.. we have to be our own best friend/therapist/supporter.
There's a million people out there willing to put you down.. you don't need to do the same thing to yourself!!
One way you could do that is to either ask or remember all the positive things people have said to you.. and write them down.. This in itself can help you see yourself more clearly - we are all our own worst critic and its not necessary, realistic or helpful. You can also refer to the list when you find yourself being harsh to yourself.
Another thing you can do.. is.. think how you would treat a loved one if they were struggling.. and use those same kindnesses to yourself.. we have to be our own best friend/therapist/supporter.
There's a million people out there willing to put you down.. you don't need to do the same thing to yourself!!
@Adaydreambeliever I'm going to go ahead and try that actually! I get a good bit of compliments by my friends and coworkers, but unfortunately it's just hard to see what they see.
I'll start by writing the compliments I get. Hopefully it'll help my brain stop being so dumb over this
I'll start by writing the compliments I get. Hopefully it'll help my brain stop being so dumb over this
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@NoThankYou Ok so.. when you say 'brain being so dumb over this' you can reframe that and say more kindly, but equally true, 'My brain has a habit of saying negative things about myself, but I can do something about that when I do that.' Thank you for the Best comment