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Do you have a good self esteem?

I have noticed that I tend to perceive myself as way less than what others perceive me as. Any tips to help remedy that?
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F Best Comment
There are loads and loads of resources out there.. and many suggestions.. Too many to cover here but basically evaluating more realistically your skills and good points.
One way you could do that is to either ask or remember all the positive things people have said to you.. and write them down.. This in itself can help you see yourself more clearly - we are all our own worst critic and its not necessary, realistic or helpful. You can also refer to the list when you find yourself being harsh to yourself.
Another thing you can do.. is.. think how you would treat a loved one if they were struggling.. and use those same kindnesses to yourself.. we have to be our own best friend/therapist/supporter.
There's a million people out there willing to put you down.. you don't need to do the same thing to yourself!!
@Adaydreambeliever I'm going to go ahead and try that actually! I get a good bit of compliments by my friends and coworkers, but unfortunately it's just hard to see what they see.

I'll start by writing the compliments I get. Hopefully it'll help my brain stop being so dumb over this
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@NoThankYou Ok so.. when you say 'brain being so dumb over this' you can reframe that and say more kindly, but equally true, 'My brain has a habit of saying negative things about myself, but I can do something about that when I do that.' Thank you for the Best comment

hunkalove · 61-69, M
If I had any self-esteem would I be wasting time on a crapola bottom feeder website like this?
@hunkalove oof good point
Dusty101 · F
Since I embraced enjoying being alone without the stress of fairweathered friends, my self esteem has rocketed. And people like me better... I choose who I want to hang out with.. No more stress!
@Dusty101 Very nicely said! 🐱
@Dusty101 I like that.

I'm pretty good with being alone. I tend to feel the most relaxed when I'm home alone rather than when I'm hanging out with friends. Unfortunately though, I'm starting to feel lonely. Despite having a good amount of friends. I think it'd time I seek a relationship but I know that's not wise until I learn to love myself more.

It's all tricky 😔
Dusty101 · F
@NoThankYou awe it is very tricky!
Hugs!
Embrace the good qualities you already are aware of. The more gratitude you embrace, the more growth you will see.
@Grateful4you I think I will combine this with one of the suggestions above and start actually writing down my good qualities. Hopefully this positive thinking will do the trick
@NoThankYou I've been doing my gratitude check daily for over a year. It has done wonders for me. The best "self -help" approach to life I've ever exercised.
When I was young, I would concern myself with appearance and constantly worry what others thought of me, once I realized how I was restricting myself based on stupid people, my confidence soared
@checkoutanytime You know that actually helps a bit. Why worry about others opinions when most people are a little dumb haha
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Become greedy, arrogant, selfish, self absorbed and self important would definitely be a sure way. 😒

At least one of these is "hinted" at in many self help informationals.

Self absorbed is quite common.
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in10RjFox · M
Learn to know, how others perceive you .. and start perceiving others.. at the end of the day .. it's all a [b] perception[/b].
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Better now than before
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It's a work in progress.
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