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What do you say to my friend who has a guy tearing her apart.

He left taking everything (furniature included) exept her clothes. Then left a note saying he was unfaithful. She's trying so hard to chase him down and her heart is in half. She's thinking about suiside and I have no idea what to say. Something nice but that will wake her up! I've tried all the normal he's not worth it. Take time to find you again. Be the woman God wants you to be and hold your head up. But I'm at a loss and she's getting worse.

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VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]Tell her she's scaring you and that you'd like her to talk to a counselor. That shits unhealthy.[/c]

Kimmerrose · 31-35, F

I've lost 7 people to suiside it's not a threat I take lightly

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@Kimmerrose: I'm not Kidding. I deal with this a lot. Sometimes the best thing to do is tell them the truth. Some people have to be shocked back into reality....If she won't go make her an appointment and get her there even if you have to trick her. She needs help fast.

Kimmerrose · 31-35, F

I realize that she does and she is seeing a counselor. I just wish I could help more

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@Kimmerrose: [c=#4C0073]If she's seeing a counselor then let them do their job. The best thing you can do for her is positive reinforcement. When she says something negative say something positive to her. If she says it's her fault tell her it's not. People are assholes and some are really good at hiding it. If she Cries tell her this too shall pass. If she talks listen and tell her she is loved. As a friend that is the best thing possible. You're doing all you can. She has to heal herself just be positive and be there that's more than enough. [/c]

Kimmerrose · 31-35, F

My last response to her...Ik you love him. It's one of those if you love him let it go. Situations Ik it's hard but you need to stop pushing, if there is anything to repair you are going to make it worse. I love you so I'm gonna be honest and please don't hate me for it but here it goes. Honey as hard as it is to say this no matter how much it hurts you need to pick yourself up dust off. Ik it'll take time. Hold your head high and try to be the woman God wants you to be. Start working towards repairing your heart, and learn from this relationship. Like we all do you will learn to be more guarded. No little boy is worth you taking your own life absolutely NOTHING is. It causes more heartache for everyone around you. You can do way better, I'm not saying turn around and start dating right away but take your time and give your heart time to heal. You can and will get past this with time!

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]Thats
A good response, but deflection is probably better. Try to not talk about it. Keep her mind off it. She's making her life all about him. Show her life is just fine without him. If she brings it up listen and remind her that she lived well before him and she will live well after him. Tell her you love her and she will be fine.[/c]

Kimmerrose · 31-35, F

@VioletRayne: read through the other peoples replies and see if you have anything to add to /zefninjaa he's an ass and u seem logical!

Kimmerrose · 31-35, F

@VioletRayne: the only reason I said that was cause she started the conversation