Do guys care about stretch marks? I'm really insecure about mine and I feel like I should warn the guy before we hook up or something.

First year university I was a chunky monkey and gained a good 40lbs. I went from 180 lbs to 130 lbs in a few months and stretch marks showed up like delayed I guess because they appeared when I had already dropped the weight.

Anyways, I have a few like silvery marks under my belly button that I'm really insecure about. Also if I sit in specific ways my skin on my torso looks a little loose. Not noticeable unless I am sitting hunched over. But I'm still insecure and frustrated about both. I feel mad I let myself get so chubby because I ruined my body basically for curly fries.

Sorry I keep rambling. Anyways, this guy who's probably the hottest guy thats every been into me wants to hangout and I actually like him a lot. But I don't want to go through the heartbreak of someone commenting on them or not wanting to be with me because of them. He seems nice enough but I have guy friends and I hear how they talk about girl's bodies you know.

I don't want to sentence myself to a life alone by being scared to show guys my body and whatever, but I'm very hesitant. Do guys care that much? Like would it be a deal breaker? Should I tell him ahead of time so he doesn't think I catfished him? He is in my classes so I can't really deal with seeing him everyday after this if he decides I'm gross.

Emele · 31-35, F

I'm so sorry you have the insecurity of this, I think 'behind closed doors' people are much more accepting of things like that than they may appear from 'guy conversations' etc. Or even by the standards given as 'normal' in society now. It is an easy thing to say but your attitude and confidence will go a long way and the more you build it up as a worry in your head the more chance there is of projecting that insecurity. Any decent guy will either not see it as an issue from the start, or accept that women, and people, are real and have lives and things that will show on their body. I honestly think it would be a tiny, tiny minority that would be 'put off' to the point of not wanting to be with someone because of it.